stephie

well it lacks detail, as I do not have much to offer, but yes we were in marage counceling, but I think my husband had a breakdown? We have always had a great family life and a great sex life and a week friendship. and when my oldest son started having big trubles at school wanted to kill himself and others (he is also in councling) he disided that this was my fault, he has been having impodency problems and this is my fault beacuse I gained about 300 pounds in our 15 year marrige. (funny thing is I have lost about 140 and and am still losing through this mess as I am no longer dieting but am trying to make sure all I eat is helthful and I do not let my self self medicate with food anymore) he was layed off at MCI this year and I am starting a new job after being a house wife all that time, so he also has issues with me and money ( mind you I am great with cash but bad with checks and creadit) all this has pilled up and made him look at me with blame and contempt. truth is most of this is not my fault but he seems to need it to be as if , if it were his fault he could not take it, he even said that if he had stayed he would be dead?

I so understand my husband of 15 years has left for the same type of stuff and I fear the day that he will be with someone else and all the pain it is bringing my boys, be thankful your son is still small. my boys are seeing and felling it all? he seems to be so happy alone? I do not get it as most of our life together was great? or seemed so? I truly have to help to offer as I have only been separated for a feww weeks and he comes home to visit so it is so unreal and painful. I just wanted you to know I understand

My husband has left me, but is still paying the bills and calls to cheack on the kids etc. he even seems to be taking a seruse intrest in my new life but after 15 years he is finished with me? I have been praying but I am finding no change? He is so hurt yet honestly the stuff that hurt him is small? No big sins just lots of small stuff alowed to pill up? My kids will be crushed if I give in, but it hurts so to hope? and honestly I am finding it hard to trust him? and he has acused me of such crule stuff? it has always been my heart to be a good wife but he no longer wants or seems to need me?