Noodlecup Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 So I was with this girl for almost a decade, we broke up 2 years & a half ago We stayed friends because it seemed like none of us were able to cut off contact right away. We would see each other few times, once or twice a month, texted a bit too. During those 2.5 years i didn't try to date anyone, no dates, no sex, no going out, didn't have the heart or the will, still don't have it today. I would only go out to see her, didn't want to see friends or even go out because people's relationships reminded me too much of what i had & missed. I also tried at first but gave up as i felt like i was a burden to them, was looking or talking too depressed idk. So i isolated myself, stayed at home. Few months ago my texts started to go unanswered (they were already but to a lesser extent) ignored, or she would reply to them after days, sometimes weeks, even when i wasn't the one initiating contact. I would reply to her texts only to get ignored after or get a short answer. Either saying that she was really busy or didn't have time (but she had the time to change her social media pic every 3 days) . At first i decided that because of this i wouldn't initiate texts or contact. She continued to text, a lot less, but still. Again, sometime when i would reply i wouldn't get an answer, or only days/weeks after. . I decided then that it wasn't very healthy for me so decided to leave her alone & go NC for few months. I didn't hear from her for 3 months, she seemed to go on well with her life from what i could see on whatsapp/fb or hear from friends/mutual friends (travels, going out with "friends", night events, staying fit etc). Not a single message. Few days ago i receive a text from her saying that she missed me & that she thought about me a lot lately. I know about safetynet checks, ego boosts, water testing & all those merry things. Worst scenario, she was dating someone & it didn't go well. Didn't reply. Don't know what to reply. We're few days later now, & she didn't try reaching out again, but she did change her profile pic, her with hearts... What is this, provocation ? Thing is, i don't want to believe yet that our relationship could be reduced to silly mind games, even after BU, but i have a hard time believing that she genuinely misses me. What do you think she's trying to do ? What would you say or do, or not do ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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