jackie103 Posted July 6, 2017 Share Posted July 6, 2017 I was with my ex girlfriend for almost 3 years (we are both bi) when we broke up in order for her to sort of "discover" herself and be single/date around. I did nc for about 7 months and then we got back into contact with each other and started romantically seeing each other again (except not exclusively). We haven't been seeing anyone else during this period. I brought up getting back together but she says she has this gut feeling that we don't have a future together because all of her family would not be able to accept it. She has told her parents about us, who reacted badly. They're always worried when they know she's hanging out with me and she feels bad and guilty that she makes her parents feel that way... she says the gut feeling is due to a bunch of other factors also, that she doesn't really understand since she says she's in love with me and has been genuinely happy the past few months we've been together. She also said that her upbringing might be a reason because if I were a guy she just met now, she'd be able to see a future with me. I'm moving very soon and told her that if she didn't want to be in a relationship, I'd have to cut off contact with her in order to fully move on. She really wants to stay friends but understands that I need to do nc. In my opinion, I feel like her gut feelings are just fear due to her family but there may be something underneath that I don't know. She said that our relationship has always had an end date because back in college, we had kept the relationship a secret and knew it would have to come to an end. But now, I feel like I could and want to be with her for the long term and really love her and told her that it doesn't have to have an end date if we don't put one there... the end date is not natural because we are the reason for it, if that makes sense. She's close to her family so I know she would never want to hurt them and she always says that all of her family members are still alive and it would just be something they wouldn't be able to accept. She just recently got a therapist through an app on her phone and has been talking about these issues with her... I know the therapist isn't happy with how her family is reacting about her sexuality and a part of me hopes that the therapist might shed some light and make her want to get back together with me but I just have a feeling her mind won't change and it's really hurting me. I just don't know what to do. I know if she doesn't want to be with me, I'll have to move on but it's really hard for me... it hurts to imagine her with someone else and everything just feels right when I'm with her. Link to comment
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