Lonelyornot445 Posted July 5, 2017 Share Posted July 5, 2017 Hi all, Like most on here I'd be grateful for some advice. I'm a lurker for many years, but never felt the need to post until now. A brief relationship history of me - I was in a very long term relationship for many years which ended abruptly (infidelity). After taking time to myself I started dating again. Fast forward to now and I've been with an amazing girl for nearly 6 months. After around 3 months she started staying at my place nearly every night. I appreciate this may seem a fast moving relationship, but we are both mature adults and it simply felt right. She currently lives in a shared house. As she has stayed at mine nearly every night for months I thought asking her to move in would be the next move, given that is essentially the case now. After thinking about how to approach it all night I eventually bit the bullet and suggested that she moved in more permanently. With the caveat that it was an open invitation for whenever she felt ready. To my surprise this went down quite badly. To the point of it being compared to the move in equivalent of a crap proposal. This took me by surprise as we are basically living together anyway. So my question is - what's the next step? After the underwhelming response to my invitation I'm beginning to doubt the whole relationship. I appreciate the informal way I approached the invitation may have caught her by surprise, I feel the response showed complete disregard for my feelings, but now we appear to be in some kind of limbo. Link to comment
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