Boredom is killing me...

[amunrah]

I do not kow hwo to put.

It seems that boredomeis killing me. I have absolutely have nothing to do in my spare time.

My job is shitty, I am software tester in a organisation who does not give a damn about quality of the software. I am like a process worker doing same shit again and again. No way of doing anything extra. That goes my joblife...

IN my personal like I am bored big time. I am married and my wife expecting withinmonth.So I end up doing lot of household work. In my spare time I hook into internet. I do not know what to do. If I want to persue something cost factor comes into play and we are not financially OK like. My wife hardly gives company becuase now she has nothing to think other than the person coming in to the world.So I am pretty much pushed aside.

Due to this reason I started getting addicted to sex. Whatever time I have in internet I look for porn. I guess it all started like that but it is the only company of me. In fact I started in indulging crossdressing, not doen yet but I download some crossdress pciture and somehow I just want to dress liek them and have fun. In fact I have got an address of a socity of Crossdress in Sydney (where I am from) but I am thinking should I apply or not. Beucase my wife does not know about it.

What should I do.... please advise me...your help is appreciated....

[SwingFox]

Hello Amunrah,

 

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. I understand that you are really bored. Probably some of that will pass away with the child that you are expecting. Having a child is a big responsibility and even a bigger job... *grins*.

 

As far as your boredom goes, I would start to talk to your wife about this first. She knows you best and she might have some great ideas, too. I could imagine that you go and do things together to spend some quality time. My suggestion is to go for beach walks or just take a tour in your car. It doesn't have to cost you a lot, you know? Moreoever I could recommend you to advice other people on here. We could use a few extra hands on for advice and your help is always appreciated by those that are in need of it. I also recommend you to change jobs. I know what you mean by being bored in your job. I am a software tester myself, but I take big satisfaction from my work. You might want to consider if a career move upwards might be a good idea. I am projecting in becoming a test consultant and trying to get myself in that career path.

 

I hope that this works for you and encourages you to get in action. My rule in life: "Don't THINK about hitting the ball! Just hit the ball!" ... Good luck!

 

~ SwingFox ~

[NoCturnal DrAgoN]

Hmm...well let's see. Why don't you hang out with some friends? That's a good way to kill some boredom. Sometimes when I'm bored I just go for a drive and see where I end up. What are your interests? Do you like sports, movies, video games, etc.? You could try those to kill your boredom. I suggest joining some other club or organization other than the crossdressing one. I don't think your wife will be happy if she finds out and especially when you two are having a new child.

 

I agree with SwingFox. You could help out some people in here with their problems. That would be a good use of time. I sometimes find answers to my own problems by helping others. I also recemmend changing your job. If you don't really like it, why put up with it? Find a job that you have an interest in and think you will enjoy. That way you get paid for doing something that you like to do and also you will probably never get bored .

[jimbucktwo1776]

Get a life, make a life, do something.

 

Take up running-not a lot of money needed, just some decent $35 adidas.

Take up bike riding-or something else athletic.

 

Try to meet other people who are in the same or similar situation. Make some friends and go out for a guys night out-you need time away from your work and home life where you can relax and let go---and wearing a bra and panties will just screw up your head even more.

 

Get into something constructive- creative cooking, gardening, sports, book club, join a gym, start your own business if you're not satisfied at work.

 

You control your own life. Porn and dressing like a lady are not the answers. Do something constructive.

 

 

Jimbucktwo1776

 

 

That's that.