donacha 1 Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 Hi all ..ok about a year ago i met the most beautiful lady on facebook..she sent me a request..i accepted and to be honest this lady was way put of my league but somehow fell in love with me ..so to make it work i gave up my job an moved country to be with her..now altough shes been really attentive to me an we get on so well together ..ive started to pick up on things ..she needs to post fotos of herself on facebook an really needs male comments to feel validated she loves admiring glances and flirts with guys in my presence to ..as she says she cant be anonymous ..she gets a lot of messages all with different tones ..she has admitted to having a fake facebook profile and has a lot of porno links an hookup sites and adult dating sites in her spam..i know this as she left it open one day..now i dont have any concrete proof of anything but my gut is screaming at me somethings up She gave a few years on her own before we met so im hoping all this os a throwback to that time But the phone is closely guarded an i asked her of she ever got any spam mail and she said no Cant see her friends list on facebook either Do you feel im worrying ove nothing Or have i a concern I love this lady with all my heart an i cant see her bringing me here to do this to me...but still my gut is screaming at me Thanks guys Link to comment
DoF Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 Sounds like she loves attention....especially from opposite sex. That doesn't sound like she is long term relationship material. What I would do is ask her for her phone one day. And upon asking her, watch her closely. See if she gets angry, defensive or upset. THAT reaction is the key here, because it will tell you what she is up to. Basically, if she hands over the phone and lets you look thru it....you are good. Anything else = RED FLAG. Make sure she hands it over right there and then, if not, she is hiding something. In a relationship there is no such a thing as privacy. If she has something to hide....she will refuse to show you the phone and it's safe to assume she is up to no good. DO NOT let her come back later....she will just delete everything. So expect her to hand over the phone on the spot. Be ready to pack your bags! Link to comment
donacha 1 Posted March 1, 2016 Author Share Posted March 1, 2016 Thing is ..shes been in the public eye an is seriously beautiful When were together were great ..but im discovering slowly this other side to her..one which im hoping isnt there..we did the long distance thing for a while an im just wondering as she was alone before ...is she addicted to sex chat an no strings stuff over the net? Might explain the spam hook up an sex sites...i gave her all my passwords straight away everything But i cant see her friends which are hidden ...i spoken about this an she went through them with me But theres just alarm bells starting to go off in my head about things An its gonna have to be sorted Ive given up everything for her my job friends family country Basically im alone here Link to comment
DoF Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 Thing is ..shes been in the public eye an is seriously beautiful Who cares if she is beautiful. What you care about is WHAT KIND OF A PERSON SHE IS. Currently, based on what you told us.......meh Beauty and great person often don't go hand in hand....based on what I've seen. When were together were great ..but im discovering slowly this other side to her..one which im hoping isnt there..we did the long distance thing for a while an im just wondering as she was alone before ...is she addicted to sex chat an no strings stuff over the net? Stop lying to yourself. She is clearly showing you who she is....don't ignore it. Find out what she is about...its your #1 job while dating/getting to know a person. Might explain the spam hook up an sex sites...i gave her all my passwords straight away everything But i cant see her friends which are hidden ...i spoken about this an she went through them with me But theres just alarm bells starting to go off in my head about things An its gonna have to be sorted Ive given up everything for her my job friends family country Basically im alone here You need to confront her and ask her to see her phone and PC passwords etc. WATCH HER REACTION!!!! While in a relationship, one should he NOTHING to hide. Relationship is an open book! I also hope you are using protection.....and I would do STD test as well. Trust me, you wouldn't be the first or last guy blinded by beauty..... Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 Trust your gut. I bet there are all kinds of things your heart is keeping from seeing. Do you support her in any way? Money? Place to stay? Car? Food? Do you see yourself marrying her and have children? The spam in her email and that stuff could be anything but she can block all that stuff as it comes in. This comes down to someone that seem to be insecure and requires a lot of attention from men to make herself feel good about herself. It sounds like all she has is her looks and if that is true it isn't good. Take her off the pedestal you put her on and get those love goggles off and see what you see. If you still don't know what to do think of it this way. If your brother was dating her and she was doing all this stuff what would you advise him to do? Time for a serious talk about all the attention she obviously loves and needs. Lost Link to comment
donacha 1 Posted March 2, 2016 Author Share Posted March 2, 2016 Thank you so much for the help peops...will take everything on board .Would so love more female perspective so please if your online Be nice to have some female intuition Link to comment
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