mother-in-law

[mewoman]

I posted here many years ago and a lot has changed since then.

 

I am happily married now, going on a year. I am 59 as well as my husband.

Not that I want to divulge my age but it part of the problem I am having.

lol

 

You see I am married to a man that has an opinionated, overbearing mother

I have no idea how to deal with her.

 

She created a lot of problems in his marriage of 20 yrs.

His daughter told me there was a tremendous amount of drama that she caused.

 

I dislike her and I feel she is manipulative.

She is 82 yrs and alone. My husband is an only child.

 

He feels he is in the middle and wants peace

 

I want to limit my time with her. I do not want her

over my home "inspecting" it and reporting back to his daughter how unhappy she is

How I'm not living up to her expectations.

 

She is completely diffrent in my presence. Holds my hand, calls me daughter and acts completely different to what I am told.

Yes, his daughter told me all about her dissatisfaction. His daughter feels her grandmother is ridiculous

and is causing unnecessary problems.

 

We are from different cultures

 

My husband says he is going to have a talk with her and then all will be fine.

He feels we can repair this. I do not trust this lady. period.

I want to have boundaries and I feel a need to protect my space and peace of mind.

How would you handle this.

[Stay_home]

I posted here many years ago and a lot has changed since then.

 

I am happily married now, going on a year. I am 59 as well as my husband.

Not that I want to divulge my age but it part of the problem I am having.

lol

 

You see I am married to a man that has an opinionated, overbearing mother

I have no idea how to deal with her.

 

She created a lot of problems in his marriage of 20 yrs.

His daughter told me there was a tremendous amount of drama that she caused.

 

I dislike her and I feel she is manipulative.

She is 82 yrs and alone. My husband is an only child.

 

He feels he is in the middle and wants peace

 

I want to limit my time with her. I do not want her

over my home "inspecting" it and reporting back to his daughter how unhappy she is

How I'm not living up to her expectations.

 

She is completely diffrent in my presence. Holds my hand, calls me daughter and acts completely different to what I am told.

Yes, his daughter told me all about her dissatisfaction. His daughter feels her grandmother is ridiculous

and is causing unnecessary problems.

 

We are from different cultures

 

My husband says he is going to have a talk with her and then all will be fine.

He feels we can repair this. I do not trust this lady. period.

I want to have boundaries and I feel a need to protect my space and peace of mind.

How would you handle this.

 

You need to have a talk with your husband about this. What's his take? How come he's not involved and telling his mother to back off? This is usually the underlining problem in relationships with overbearing in-laws.