Multiple orgasms

[Parky]

Hello all,

 

 

I was just wondering how i give a female multiple orgasms.

 

Do i have to stimulate the clitoris while fingering her?

 

I need some help, a girl wants me to do it to her sometime.

 

Teach me some techniques and tips thanks.

[RayKay]

Well...multiple orgasms are not really something a guy can necessarily just "give her".....they are something not all women can have, and she sort of needs to learn how to get herself. Of course, you can definitely help my aiming to please and knowing what she enjoys. Just follow her guidance. But, she cannot expect you to just "get here there" without knowing what works herself and her own capabilities.

 

It's a bit hard to explain, but women get them when they are more comfortable with orgasming in first place and have learned what works and what does not.

 

The clitoris is VERY sensitive after an orgasm so you need to wait sometimes before applying direct pressure there again. So when you have multiples, they are usually vaginal (at least this is how they are for me). I also get multiples with anal stimulation.

 

After a woman orgasms natural lubrication may also dry up so lots of synthetic lube helps keep her comfortable and able to go for more.

 

She will need to guide you, let you know what is sensitive, where it feels good. It can take anywhere from seconds to minutes before she has another one....and if it takes hours, well, thats not really a multiple anymore

 

If you can't get her there, neither of you should feel bad...some women just can't get them (they are too drained from first one!) and some only get them when they are more mature and in a comfortable relationship. A lot of it is of course emotional, as much as physical.

 

Now if you are talking just straight orgams...most women who orgasm do so through clitoral stimulation. Some are lucky to be able to O vaginally as well ( So, yes, when you are fingering her, playing with her clitoris (don't apply too much pressure, it is sensitive) can go a long way. Make sure it's lubed so you slide over it rather than chafe it. Use different amounts of pressure and motions. She'll let you know if she is liking it

[GettingOverIt]

I think one of the most important things RayKay said is that NEITHER of you should blame the other if she does not achieve multiples right away or if she never does.... This is VITAL! Have a ton of fun TRYING, but do not be hard on yourself if she doesn't and she needs to understand that she may not experience them at all.... It is not failure on either of you if she doesn't. Now, if she does multiple, then you have else something you two can enjoy. Like I said, have fun trying! ;-)

[Day_Walker]

Typically when females talk about having multiple orgasms it is achieved from the graffenberg spot aka g spot. The first thing you need to know is female anatomy, there are typically 3 areas that can cause an orgasm and I am speaking in the general case. As I mention before one is the G spot the second is the clitoris and the third is anal stimulation. Now not all females will be able to orgasm from all three of these areas. The most common is a clitoral orgasm and this is typically achieved through oral sex, some manual stimulation is possible but the clitoris can be very sensitive. The g spot can be stimulation through certain sexual positions as well as manual stimulation. Now an anal orgasm can be achieved through oral sex, however a lot of people believe this to be taboo and arent open to the idea of performing oral sex on that region. If you do happen to perform this activity then make sure the area is completely clean and do some research to make sure you are prepared. I would suggest that you stick to a clitoral orgasm and the g spot. Starting off with a clitoral orgasm is usually the best way to go then proceeding onto the g spot. It is going to take practice in order to learn what she likes and for you to become more familiar.

[Mermaid]

The clitoris is VERY sensitive after an orgasm so you need to wait sometimes before applying direct pressure there again. So when you have multiples, they are usually vaginal (at least this is how they are for me). I also get multiples with anal stimulation.

 

After a woman orgasms natural lubrication may also dry up so lots of synthetic lube helps keep her comfortable and able to go for more.

 

 

I have multiple clitoral orgasms as long as there is about a five or 10 second pause of stimulation, then right back as hard and rythmic as it was right before my inital orgasm (in other words, no need for another build-up). And I can pretty much go on forever...

 

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Also, I'm one of those women who gets extremely wet and stays that way--and when I orgasm, I get even wetter. (My boyfriend loves that because he says that when I have an orgasm from oral sex, he feels a rush of extra liquid on his tongue.)

 

Staying moist is a big factor in satisfying orgasms, so for multiples make sure that she's nice and wet. And then ask her what she likes. I'd say the best bet is to figure out how to bring her to orgasm the first time, and then keep doing that at the same intensity.

 

And don't forget that not all women are multi-orgasmic, so don't feel let down (and don't make her feel bad) if she can't do it.

[RayKay]

I have multiple clitoral orgasms as long as there is about a five or 10 second pause of stimulation, then right back as hard and rythmic as it was right before my inital orgasm (in other words, no need for another build-up). And I can pretty much go on forever...

 

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Also, I'm one of those women who gets extremely wet and stays that way--and when I orgasm, I get even wetter. (My boyfriend loves that because he says that when I have an orgasm from oral sex, he feels a rush of extra liquid on his tongue.)

 

I get the multiple "g-spots" rather than clitoral (I o that way, just not multiples generally)...which is fine by me, I get a more intense rush that way. The clitoris for many women though DOES get very sensitive for a few minutes after (so you are lucky!)..I know sometimes I need to wait for a couple minutes at least to have direct pressure again.

 

I'm a gusher too...lol...means I do a LOT of laundry washing my sheets!

 

You are right on the moistness definitely. Sometimes women have little lubrication to begin with (it varies according to cycle, hydration levels, hormones, etc) ....and even when they do, sometimes the synthetic helps more as it is more slippery oftentimes. I once remember reading this book..it was actually written by porn stars on sex tips, in the aisle of a bookstore once, and they also were talking about how lube was the best thing ever, even if you are naturally lubricated. It really can kick things up another notch, I found that even though I do get (and stay) really wet it does add another smoother, gliding sensation that makes you be able to keep on going for most women.

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[RayKay]

I can have dozens of orgasms within just an hour, and stay extremely wet. They're all clitorial though. Any hints what to do to get a vaginal orgasm?

 

You'll have to experiment with this one a bit...its mostly about pressure being in the first couple inches of your vagina towards the front and with rubbing that area, but I get them with full penetration too (partner is large enough to have enough pressure then as well). Sometimes he can just hold fairly still and I'll move a bit to get them and direct it where it feels good.

 

Try varying positions too....you have more control on top for example. I get them in many different positions, but I find I get my best most powerful (and multis) more when we are in missionary or when I am laying almost flat on my stomach and him on top - I think in my case the angle is just better that way with my partner, but your experience may vary!

 

I know when I first started having them, I would sometimes think it was taking a long time and it was frustrating as it felt like it was all buildup no climax, but just stay with it....sometimes they have looooong buildups...lol (which is cool, as that is rather fun too!).

 

I find them a lot more "all over body" then clitoral and I will get just waves coursing through my entire body (of course that is just me, everyone is different!)

[11flower]

I disagree with anal stimulation for achieving orgasm. The rectal walls are somewhat fragile and not exactly made for penile penitration ( sorry to you folks who are into this). I understand that this sort of penitration can cause future problems, something like hemorrhoids or other conditions.

 

The G spot might be different for each woman and has to be found.

Anyway, the rectum/anus is not the best place to insert anything healthwise.

 

As for multiple orgasms, I once saw a show where an older lady was discussing her sex life and claimed she had orgasms 5 and 6 times. I mean, this just isn't real. I'd think that after that much stimulation and climax, the bod needs to rest awhile, unless the orgasm is an incredibly deep and complete one. I think orgasms vary in my own paraphrasing from superficial to partial to good to very complete and deep or intense. It depends.

 

I also agree and would heartily emphasize that it just does not happen for most women every time they have sex. It is not wrong that orgasm isn't achieved. In my case, I've been making up for years with too few and my love life is much, much better and consistent these days.

 

 

11Flower

[11flower]

One more thing, if women do Kegel exercises, it will heighten the sensation when making love. Also, a position on all 4s with him behind you is an amazingly effective one. All vaginal penetration, of course. I hear also that guys can find this an amazingly great sensation.

 

11F.

[RayKay]

Anal sex done properly - meaning LOTS of foreplay and lots of lube is not dangerous. Of course you can disagree, and the skin is more delicate, but you are not going to break apart when it is done properly. If it was that bad, we would have a lot of problems defecating, etc! Vigorous thrusting and no lube would be bad, gentle, slow, lots of lube is pleasurable and safe and can provide intense feelings as there is a bundle of nerves up there. It is not done like it is seen on porn.

 

Hemorrhoids and other problems...those are caused by straining/pressure etc (which is why pregnant women for example get them). I have not seen any studies that link anal sex to them.

 

When done properly, and with trust it can be very stimulating. Of course everyone can have their opinion, but you can't disagree that it does bring pleasure to some people. As long as you take precautions and keep clean it is fine. I don't advise you do it everyday, but a couple times a month or so is not going to hurt when done properly.

 

I have even talked to a couple doctors I know about this and they say the same thing, that as long as you take precautions it is fine.

 

As for multiples...yes it is possible. Yes they will vary in intensity, but that does not mean you can't have a few smaller ones and a bigger one, etc. I do sometimes get smaller ones after a large one though, without trying to hard but just with gentle, slower sex.

[11flower]

RayKay,

 

Well it makes me feel better to know you've heard this from doctors what with so many people having anal sex.

 

I wonder how guys feel about this. How is anal sex to a guy with regard to nerves and stimulation? (Tells you how many times I've had anal sex)

I tend to go for every other way.

 

11Flower

[Kyoshiro Ogari]

As for multiple orgasms, I once saw a show where an older lady was discussing her sex life and claimed she had orgasms 5 and 6 times. I mean, this just isn't real.

Actually, it can be. A friend of mine, who is in her mid 60s, said she had at least 10 orgasms in a row during one encounter, but she lost count after about 6 or 7, but it was definitely at least 10. From what she told me, the guy was impressively well hung in length and width, and she herself is a large woman. I didn't ask her how this "came" about, but think it had to do with him switching positions every 2 minutes or so. I wouldn't know since I haven't had sex yet.

[Mermaid]

One more thing, if women do Kegel exercises, it will heighten the sensation when making love. Also, a position on all 4s with him behind you is an amazingly effective one. All vaginal penetration, of course. I hear also that guys can find this an amazingly great sensation.

 

11F.

 

And as I always say, a strong Kegel muscle will make your partner very happy. My boyfriend loves when I lie there and clench my Kegel around his penis. It drives him wild...

 

Oooh, nice Squall avy.

[jaiva]

I think RayKay covered it all. But make sure you ask her what pleases her. You can't just give multiple O's its something that happens with practice and knowing what pleases her.

Jaiva

[Multiples]

I read about this simple technique about 15 years ago and it has never failed to blow womans minds. usually there first multiple. All you do is not try to have an orgasm. try to go as long as you can without having one. When i am going down on a woman, when she starts to get close to orgasm i stop back away for a minute or 2 and then start again and when she gets close stop again. do this 3-5 or more times and she will have incredible long multiples, when you do finish her off. The same thing can happen with intercourse just stop when she gets close. It will also help the man last longer stopping a few times. Have fun with it tease each other so she never knows when you are going to finish her.

My experiance with this has been totally awesome, my latest girlfriend had her first ever multiple and they get better every time. Also partners who have there first multiple are pretty appreciative.

Good luck