bows15 Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 I've wanted to break no contact so badly today. I know I can't, but it's been a hard day. Knowing how hard this has been makes me just want to say single. It's rough. Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 Hang in there! Try to remember that contacting your ex will almost always make you feel worse, and look desperate. Know that time without any reminders of them will get you there. Link to comment
sonicfan287 Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 How long has it been? Know that it is perfectly naturally to feel the temptation, just don't give into it Link to comment
bows15 Posted August 18, 2015 Author Share Posted August 18, 2015 It's been 35 days. Thanks for the encouragement! I know I have to move on, but it's still a struggle some days. Link to comment
Dottieflanogon Posted August 18, 2015 Share Posted August 18, 2015 I'd ask myself, "what possible good could come from contacting her?" Really .........what good could come from it? If I were you and doing so much better, I would keep at it. The urge is normal and it really may feel that you can handle it, but think about a few possible outcomes if you do break NC. She may be doing so much better than you perhaps a bit too good without you in her life and it could send you back into a slumb. She could be seeing someone and chances are you start to compare yourself to that person and feel inadequate. keep up NC ...contact will get you nothing but more hurt and pain Link to comment
sonicfan287 Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 Believe it or not, a month or so is when it starts to get a "little" easier in my opinion. Yes, it will still be hard for a while to come (depending on how long you were together and how close you were with keeping contact when you were together) but now that you've had a few weeks under your belt, you've seen what it's like not to contact them or be contacted. It starts to get easier only because you now realize that life goes on without their contact (it may or may not be going well, but you can at least take solace in the other things you've found to do instead of talking to them). When you get past the second month, it should start to feel even easier but it's obviously not a direct A-B route to recovery. Hang in there and continue posting on here for strength and support. It sounds cheesy, but it does help, honest! Link to comment
bows15 Posted August 19, 2015 Author Share Posted August 19, 2015 Thanks y'all. This site and your encouragement helps so much. Link to comment
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