My girlfriend said she needed some time to calm herself down, and request not to

[dio9366]

My girlfriend said she needed some time to calm herself down, and request not to see each other temporarily

 

So we have been dating for one and half year, so this is quite a long tern, intimate relationship. We know each other very well and we allowed each other to walk into both life pretty much very deeply. She even talks about getting married and have kids.

 

During this time, we fought quite a few times. The problem mostly because of communication or idea differences. She was not a very good communicator, she tend to hide her reason of being angry and expect me to feel for her.

My problem she told me once probably was lack of empathy. I am not a very sensitive person, sometimes I may not notice small things I said might hurt her feelings. example like we watch the same movie, she enjoys a lot, but I feel the

movie is very boring and tell her how I feel.

 

When she was showing her childish temper instead of communicating with me , I tend to walk away or keep distance every time we fought, saying something like "Forget it" or " Maybe we both need some time alone" things like that.

 

Maybe she thinks that every time we fought it is always her problem and I am always stay upper handed. This time we fought over some small unimportant matters, something like I felt she is ignoring my text message so I told her

"If you don't wanna talk to me fine! maybe we should talk less now on" I usually give her a lot of freedom and space, never bother with text message she replied, but this time she really gives me the feeling that she was avoiding communication with me.

 

she said to me she need to calm down and she doesn't want to see me temporarily. I was quite surprise when she told me that. I knew sometimes I did hurt her feelings pretty deeply. I am not very good at express or sense others emotions. I do love her, maybe in time I made her felt that she is not important to me, but the truth is that she IS very important to me.

 

Should I let her know this? or should I give her some time and space to think about it? what is the best way to positive communicate with her? please help! Thank you!

[Lester]

"time to calm herself down"

"we fought quite a few times."

"I knew sometimes I did hurt her feelings pretty deeply."

"every time we fought"

"This time we fought over some small..."

 

The discovery period, (dating), is supposed to be a fun time of discovery and growth together. If it not, as in your case, you're supposed to move on. Trying to force an incompatible person into love with you will never work.

[dio9366]

"time to calm herself down"

"we fought quite a few times."

"I knew sometimes I did hurt her feelings pretty deeply."

"every time we fought"

"This time we fought over some small..."

 

The discovery period, (dating), is supposed to be a fun time of discovery and growth together. If it not, as in your case, you're supposed to move on. Trying to force an incompatible person into love with you will never work.

 

How do you think we are incompatible? I would like to hear your reason.

 

Couple fighting during dating period is pretty normal, don't you think?

[mhowe]

Fighting regularly isn't normal. In 6 years, I have had less than 6 "fights" with my boyfriend.

 

You don't seem attentive enough for her, and she seems much too sensitive for you.