sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 My man of almost 3 years is still talking to a few exes. He messaged one of them and said "How are you beautiful?" He never calls me that or anything for that matter.. I'm kinda pissed about it. Should I just shrug it off? Link to comment
mg22 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 What was the reason hes messaging his ex?? Just the fact that he message her is already a NO-NO , calling her beautiful just makes it worse ! Don't tolerate this behavior. Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 She knows we are together. He messaged her on Facebook Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 He acts like it no big deal when I bring these types of things up. She lives 25 hours away. So I don't know if I should take it serious Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 I would tolerate having contact with an ex, I would not tolerate him calling her beautiful. He should be calling you beautiful, and no one else. Link to comment
mg22 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 I would not tolerate him keeping in touch with her even if she lives in the moon. Link to comment
mg22 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 She knows we are together. He messaged her on Facebook Somes ex's get a ego stroke and don't care if they are in a relationship or not. Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 She is also kind of seeing someone new but he messaged her first Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 And by the the way, how did you find out about this? Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 How should I confront him about it? Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 She is also kind of seeing someone new but he messaged her first Did he decide to contact her now that he found out she is seeing someone? Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 No he had no idea till he asked her. Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 She asked him if he was married yet and he said "No why?" Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 She asked him if he was married yet and he said "No why?" He asked why? Wow. You just tell him exactly what you think. He is crossing boundaries and it bothers you and I would definitely ask him why he is calling some ex beautiful while he never calls you anything like that. Then you wait and see how he reacts. Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 OK I will try that and post back with the outcome. Thank you. Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 Pay attention to his reaction. Does he get nervous, aggressive, accusing you back of something else? These would be bad signs in my opinion. Link to comment
mg22 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 Good Luck, by the way you deserve better than that. Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 He has accused me back before Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 Also aggressive Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 The thing is, if he starts accusing you of things out of the nowhere when you confront him, he might be deviating the subject in order to hide something Link to comment
panther Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 Also aggressive You have to interpret his behaviour in the context Link to comment
mg22 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 If hes acting out before what makes you think he will do differently ?? Link to comment
sweeteri08 Posted December 7, 2014 Author Share Posted December 7, 2014 I don't know if it's worth the argument Link to comment
IAmFCA Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 He called her beautiful because he knew it would cause his ex to respond warmly. He wants the affirrational from the exes that they still appreciate him and his masculinit in some way. Link to comment
mg22 Posted December 7, 2014 Share Posted December 7, 2014 Is this the first time he contact ex's/women on Facebook?? Link to comment
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