A friend or a gf?

[Unknown2k3]

I'm new here, but I've been reading most of the topics and find that a lot of the people here are very kind and give good advice. Ok, on to my problem.

 

I've known this one girl since freshman year (Now a Junior, I'm 17, she's 16 but will be 17 on the 30th). When I first met her, I did not think much about it. But then we started to become really good friends and I started to like her more and more. Then at the end of freshman year, she gave me her phone # and I gave her mine (she asked). But she has never called, nor have I. I'm one of those really shy and quiet people, and I get nervous around her or even when I just hear her. So, I've never had the guts to ask her out.

 

Then in Softmore year, she seemed really happy to see me and gave me the usual hug greeting (except she pinned my arms to my side unabling me to hug her back ). Then about 3 weeks after school started, she moved away. Some of my other friends said she moved to a "traveling school" but I've never heard of the thing, but then I later found out she went to a boarding shool. (No idea why, maybe its b/c she tried to slit her wrists once and her mom and step dad got worried.) She was gone for 3 months, I felt so depressed and I tried to get over her, but then she came back! But.... she changed.... ever since she came back almost 1.5 years ago, we have never talked for more then 30 seconds.

 

We are both now Juniors and I would like to go out with her at least once (if she agrees, hopefully she will since we were/still are[?] friends once) before we goto college. We only have 15 days left of school and her B-day is on Friday. I don't know if I should make a move (remember, I get extremly nervous when around her) or just forget about her...

 

She's one of those "tomboy" type girls and likes music, but could probably not know how to turn a computer on even if it was marked with an on/off switch (she's not dumb, but when it comes to anything electronic, forget it.)

I'm usually labeled a "geek" or a "nerd", because I am smart (Usually B+ grades if I'm not too lazy) and know quite a bit about computers.

We both dress about the same (baggy, dark clothes), and we are both clean (as in no drugs or ).

 

I don't know if she has a bf or not (I don't think so b/c I don't see any guys she hangs around besides her other friends which I know [and they know I like her]). I don't understand why she just suddenly stopped talking to me once she came back to our highschool after 3 months. I mean, she started talking to her other friends as soon as she came back.... why is she ignoring me?

[Jose]

I dont know why she is ignoring you. Either she doesnt want to talk to you anymore or maybe she's too shy to. You should go up to her and ask her, if not then at least go up to her and try to talk to her.

[kelsey7210]

it sounds like you have alot of feelings for this girl and it sounds like you really do love her. i think you should go for it and ask her out. i mean, you guys were good friends before and everything so that means you would proubably have a good relationship. dont be shy or afraid, you know if you never ask this girl out, you will regret it. dont let this moment pass you by. go get her and let her know how you feel!!!

good luck!

[Unknown2k3]

Well, I did ask her out once before, about a month or so after she came back, but she said she was already seeing someone (which is true, her best friend told me so and so did my best friend.). She also said "thank you for telling me" (that I liked her). That confused the heck out of me and kinda broke my heart (made me a bit jealous too).

 

So, I'll try again soon. Hopefully I can get her away from her girlfriends long enough to ask. She would be my first g/f if she says yes.