sevenohnine709 Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Ok, first off i will describe myself. A mid 20s male who struggles with general anxiety disorder, ocd, and adhd. I find it a deadly combination for relationships. The problem i am coming to you guys about today is the fact at the beginning of my current relationship of 3 months i was very quiz like i guess i could call it about my girlfriends past. She had an extremely low self esteem and sort of had a very sexual 6 months since she had lost her virginity at 21. Threesomes and lots of sexual partners including a married man which didnt bother her. Now due to my nature i guess i made her feel bad to the point.she says she hates who she was back then. I have developed strong feelings for this girl and quickly realized if i wanted to be the best caring boyfriend i could be i needed to get my mental healt under control. I am now medicated, in therapy and quit alcohol consumption as i decided it affects my ability to control my impulsivity. I have had a lot of success and she has noticed the drastic change. She has also mentioned she wonders sometimes if.i ll revert back to my old self. I assure her and i guess after time she.will see. The issue i have is , i see and hear her talk about herself if she thinks about her past and it breaks my heart. I feel guilt constantlyfor making ankther human feel this way. I consitantly tell her i was wrong in what i did, hating yourself will accomplish nothing. It is such a small period in your life it doesnt make a difference, everyone does things they wish they had not later on. You learn from mistakes and move on. However it doesnt do anything. I know i made it so intense back then, and it felt okay but i.know it is not. I would do anything to go back and change it. She says i treat her so well but she said somedays she thinks back and doesnt feel the strong emotion to me as she does other days. How can i fix this, i try everyday and will not be doing anything like it ever again. I just feel horrible, i cant sleep and was put on sleeping medication, and most of all i do not want her feeling any self hatred. She means so much to me and i dont want to lose the oppurtunity to spend time with her as my girlfriend. Link to comment
sevenohnine709 Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 Note: I am not using any disorder as an excuse for what I did. I am aware it was wrong and I took responsability Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted October 4, 2013 Share Posted October 4, 2013 Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to fix it. She needs to fix how she feels about herself now. Lesson to be learned here - Don't ask questions you really don't want to hear the answers too. Another persons sexual past is none of your business. Link to comment
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