Celadon Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Just thought I'd vent a little about something that's gotten me confused. I turned down a date last week with this guy who has liked me for awhile and just keeps hoping I'll like him in that way, although I don't. I think it was the right decision, because I don't have any feelings for him. We're not right for each other. But the problem is, I feel guilty. I'm trying to figure out if I'm some sort of co-dependent enabler, which means that I don't think he can handle the rejection, so I feel bad and like I want to make up for it or clarify with him that I don't think he's a bad person. From his behavior lately, I can tell he feels really hurt/mad. I think the real problem might be that I don't feel comfortable setting my own boundaries. I'm not used to doing that, and so I'm afraid people won't respect them, or me. I'm afraid people will say I'm cold. I'm not, though. I just feel like I've given him PLENTY of clear signals that I'm NOT interested, so it's up to him to stop beating his head against the wall. I think what I need to do is let him lick his wounds in peace. He's a big boy. Also, I need to believe that the decisions I make for myself are good decisions. Even if other people DO second-guess me, it's MY decision and I am the one to live with the consequences. It's my life, after all. Anyway, thanks for reading this. Your comments are welcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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