jbutterfly2020

Since when do guys go to jail for bothering a lady at a bar? It was just a role reversal, instead of you guys hounding a girl, she was doing that to him. It wasn't cute at all, was it? So pass this story on to any guy you know that tries to pick up girls at bars or anywhere.

When I run into old friends or meet a new guy, they always say, "I can't believe you don't have a boyfriend." It makes me wonder if I missed the message that I HAD to have one. I don't understand that comment and hate to hear it. I wish I had some funny answer for it just to shut them up. I live my life today like I am not looking for some other person. Over the last year, I realized that me and my friends go out dancing for separate reasons. I go to dance and they are going to meet guys. And if I happen to get hit on more then them, they are not happy. It is horrible since we are friends and not competing in some game, right?

I would not date myself because I am too difficult. Yet many guys take me out again and again even though thats how I am. It confuses me because why would anyone want to try so hard to be with a person. I guess they like the chase but its still so strange. I do have fun though so I should not complain.

You will just have to try asking her out if you are interested. I know its taking a chance but the outcome could be an awesome relationship.

Has your wife cheated before? I don't see any other reason why you would be so paranoid. If you continue feeling jealous, you will drive her away. It is better to talk to her about your feelings so that you better understand each other. She might not even know this bothers you.

Sounds to me like this "perfect" relationship wasn't exciting anymore....maybe it became all too routine and perfect for her. She also might just be afraid to be settling down at a young age so she decided to cut it off and experiment with the single life again. Just let her do what she wants and work on moving on for yourself.

Well I have been thinking about this since I got off of work at 3. I wanted to write the letter last night but I wanted to wait on some more advice. I ultimately believe that we should be together. I want to be back with him. Sure we had our drama, he made me mad as did I. But we had the best conversations and we understood each other on this other level. He supported my dreams of going to college, but I didn't support him in his not going to college. Thats the reason I chose to split with him. At the time, I just didn't understand how it would work with me being busy and him sitting around. My only contact is by e-mail right now. So I chose to write a letter if I can stop being foolish and get the nerve. I would really appreciate some help on talking to him about it. Thanks DN

Well I haven't wrote the letter just yet. I am nervous and excited about it. Nervous he will tell me he doesn't care anymore; excited that he still might. I have wanted to get back in touch with him for the last year; we have been apart for two years. But I guess I was hoping and waiting for him to come back to me. I definitely am not looking to hurt him and would never play games with him. I have been dating different guys the past two years but I haven't had another boyfriend since him. I always assumed I would have another boyfriend but I haven't clicked with the guys I have dated. We still have common friends so I know he is doing ok but I never ask about his thoughts on me. I would rather ask him when I am ready, like now. I care about him alot and I love him of course. We had an awesome relationship and the break up wasn't bad. He even wrote me songs afterwards that I still play at least once a month. They were titled "Lost in Love" and "A Girl I Love". I made a mistake in the past and I hope to make it all better now, but can I? Thanks for any help. J

Well I was going to college and he was living back home. At the time I just didn't want to do the long distance thing. I wanted to be able to get the college experience and all that jazz. I most likely could handle him having moved on. I don't necessarily want to get back with him, maybe just catch up and see where it goes. I think I will write the letter........hope it goes well. Thanks

Sadly, it sounds as if she is cheating. "You ask too many questions" is her way to throw you off the subject at hand. Its a way to cover up what really is going on. Your best bet is to end the relationship and cut out the need to worry about the lying and cheating.

Hi, I have been having these thoughts and feelings about my ex bf for two weeks now. I realized we haven't been together in two years. I chose to run him out of my life and change my numbers and moved so he couldn't try to get back with me. But I left him saying if it was meant to be, we would come back together. I also have his contact info now since a friend just had to give it to me on Valentine's Day. So now I do not know what to do. I really want to e-mail him or call him. But I am afraid he moved on and I should just leave it alone. But then again, what would I lose? I wish I would have never gotten the information so I could have gone on with the status quo. If you have ever been in a situation such as this, please leave your wisdom for me. Thank you, J

Hopefully the above will work. If not, then you need to be direct. Tell him you enjoy his phone calls but they only need to happen once a week.

Well she sounds like she is being flirty with you but that doesn't always mean she likes you. I tend to come off as flirting with everyguy because I love to be friendly. When you gave her your number, what happened? Did you say call me sometime, or in case you ever want to hang, or whatever? And how did she respond? The fact that she did not give hers back says to me that she isn't interested in taking it outside the office.

I am in the same crowd with you all. I don't have a boyfriend at the moment just family and friends. For me, being single hurts most for New Year's Eve and Valentines. I count how many I have been "alone" for and tool over why I am still single. But I just go out with my other single gals and we laugh the night away. I hope everyone at least enjoys the holidays no matter who you are with.

Thanks for all your help everyone. I can't bring him along because it will be me and my close girl friends since we didn't hang out hardly ever this semester. I do understand how that hurt his ego but there are a million other times we could hang out and I was not rude about it. I thought he would be very awesome to date but now maybe I should just keep him at arms length and keep enjoying that. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!