randy Posted November 24, 2004 Share Posted November 24, 2004 hello everyone...i don't know where to start...i have a serious problem...there is a friend (she is 28 i am 24) at work that i have fallen in love with. I can not sleep at nights. I am constantly thinking about her. I have a hard time concentrating at work and endup making stupid mistakes. We have known eachother for 1.5 years. I have been sitting next to her for 7 months now. But i think she is in love with someone else who is PRETTY MUCH MARRIED. PLEASE PLEASE READ ALL OF THIS...I WOULD APPRECIATE ANY HELP. I can't tell if she likes me or if she just wants to be a friend. She sits right next to me. She comes up to me about 6 inches away and starts talking to me about various topics: her ex boyfriends, family and pretty much everything, she wispers in my ear often, touches me on the shoulder, always matches my tone of voice when we talk. We constantely have lunch together and endup having long conversations that last hours (1-2 hrs). She waits for me and I wait for her when we go down to our cafteria to buy stuff. She always tells me when she is leaving the desk to go the the washroom etc. Sometime i look into her eyes and stare at them for a few seconds while we are talking. After stairing into eachothers eyes for about 2-3 seconds she or I would then look away. She has told me a few times that she is lonley (she does not have a boyfriend-she has been without one for about 2 years now). We laugh together a lot. She says she likes slim white guys (i am a medium build brown guy). She says she like a guy who dresses nice. She complementes me on my dressing ever other day or so (she usually says i like your shirt. You should dress like that more often") I have massaged her shoulder. The next few days after I massaged her shoulder she woudl say (quote) "my shoulder hurts again" (end quote) (is she trying to get me to massage them again)? BUT WE HAVE NEVER BEEN ANYWHERE OUTSIDE OF WORK (i plan on changing that buy asking her to go places with me every now and then). NOW THERE IS A MAJOR PROBLEM She is friends with someone outside of work who she has known for 1. 5 years (lets call this friend mister 123). They go to dinner, shoping etc together. He is a totally nice person (a gentleman, (but so am i) and she loves that type). He will hold her coat for her. Open the door for her etc (I also do these things for her as well when we are at work. For example, if we were to go down to the cafeteria to buy a quick snack i would hold that snack for her, hold the door open, etc). Now mister 123 is NOT maried but he does have a girlfriend who whe has been with for 3 years. Mister 123 and his girl friend have bought a house together and they both sleep in the same bed. Now mister 123 girlfriend is never home. She works the majority of the time and the only time mister 123 gets to see his girlfriend is around 10PM (after she comes home from work). Now mister 123 calls the girl i like once every day at work. They both joke around about stupid things and laugh together often (remember they also go places together. BUT NOTE THAT THE GIRL I LIKE DOES NOT HAVE MANY FRIEND WHERE SHE IS RIGHT NOW. SHE MOVED HERE RECENTELY). I asked the girl i like if she likes mister 123 (i asked her seriously) and she said no. The girl that i like has a girlfriend that she is close with. The girlfriend has met mister 123 and the girlfriend says that mister 123 is a good person for you as a boyfriend (she is constantly saying this and trying to get the girl that i like and mister 123 together). (i know the girlfriend of the girl that i like - the one that is always trying to get them together. We use to worked together and we talked and got along well. Maybe i should email her and ask her for advice)??? The girl that i like often tells me that mister 123 is like her boyfriend except without the love making etc. Now do you all think i stand a good chance here or any at all of her liking me and eventually falling in love with me? Do you all think the girl that i like loves mister 123 or are they just good friends??? I would really like to know what the girls/women on these fourms think (men as well also). please share your wisdom. I really like this girl...honestely if she were to come up to me tomorrow and ask me to marry her i would...i really care for her and really like her. she is always telling me how she has been hurt by her 2 ex boyfriends (one just wanted to get her in bed and the other broke up with her after a year because he said he was "no longer attracted to her"). She deserves to be treated corectely and I wish i can get a chance to show her how much i care about her. PLEASE COMENT ON WHAT YOU THINK. IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU THINK. I JUST WANT SOME HELP HERE. Quote Link to comment
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