Girls: what makes a guy more approachable?

[asdf]

Basic question for the girls: What can a guy do to make himself seem more approachable? I don't mean more attractive. Just how can he be less intimidating?

[Luciana]

Smile. A sincere smile, a good man's smile, not a seductive sleazy smile if you know what I mean..

 

Look into her eyes. Smile with your eyes. Don't look at her chest (not in the first 3 dates!),

[Azanthis]

He can start by being himself. If that doesn't work, nothing will

[behind_these_eyes]

I definitely agree with Luciana. Smirking is so intimidating..it's like they're up to something.

[asdf]

I definitely agree with Luciana. Smirking is so intimidating..it's like they're up to something.

 

ah, so that's what i've been doing wrong...

[Evelyn99]

Smile is right.

 

Focus on her, on what she's saying, listen patiently, smile and nod as she talks. Don't talk so much about yourself. Let her know that you find her genuinely interesting - not as a potential bedmate but as a real person. Ask questions.

[belljar02]

I usually give any guy a first date, ugly, fat, handsome whatever. He has to be pretty gross for me not to.. I guess I am flattered that they are interested in me.

[bettyboop401]

definitely a sweet smile, a sense of humour and a clean look. I don't mean you have to be brad pitt, but just a bit of personal care.

 

And kinda brought up in here - do guys think smirking is a way to get girls to approach them? Is there a reason for smirking over smiling?

 

Betty!

[asdf]

And kinda brought up in here - do guys think smirking is a way to get girls to approach them? Is there a reason for smirking over smiling?

 

Betty!

 

i always thought smirking was more fun and playful

[tea]

Smirking is such a turn off for me. I like big genuin smiles on guys. Once they start smirking I leave.

[RayKay]

A smile, definitely. It can be a big confident smile, but if it is more of a shy one at first, but he is definitely looking at me...then that's just fine with me. Lots of eye contact when we are talking (or even when we are not). Someone who laughs freely, is comfortable in their own skin, and is a bit flirtatious and is attentive to me. Listens, asks questions, and when I ask them questions, is able to answer them thoughtfully or interestingly, and still flash that smile.

[lonelyd00d]

Okay.. I was thinking about starting a new thread, but I guess I could add here..

 

I'm not the most confident guy when walking around town or anything (meaning I'm confident in other things).. Actually, a friend of mine, whom I went to town with, told me I walked like a dead sparrow

 

So she was honest about it, and more or less dedicated to help me 'get a girl'. heh. That's really sweet of her.. but she's not around for a while. So I want to do something about that confidence thing. According to her, girls in general like confidence in a guy. My cousin said he always fakes his confidence, and he's got 'em 'lined up'..

 

So what do I do? When I talk to a girl (usually at the counter or something), I try and look her in the eyes and smiling pretty much goes without saying for me. But I always end up looking around me a lot. Which is an improvement. Because I couldn't look anyone in the eye for longer than a second a couple of years ago.

 

(and yes, I've had compliments about my cute smile. *grin* that has pleasantly surprised me, and I think it always will =)