help me....im so insecure

[gpslittledevil]

my and my boyfriend have been dating for a year today...11/15/04.....im so insecure...i think hes goin to cheat on me.....hate me....cuz im over weight.... we fight alot...cuz of me....im worried ill lose him...what can i do?

beth

[2rublueeyes21]

Well, maybe you should work on yourself. Try to lose weight..so you can feel better about yourself. You are too young to have such a heartache/headache over a boy. But, best of luck to you. Just do what makes you happy. Good luck sweetie.

[lupe]

since you have been dating that long than you guys should have a talk and make goals for eachother.

[gpslittledevil]

yeah maybe your right.....maybe i should talk to him...and work on my self....

[bat_grrl]

If you have been together that long already, you should see he already accepts you as you are. If he is the type of person that would chat on you because of weight, then why would you want to be with him anyway? Don't lose weight for anyone else, or to try to "keep" someone. If you keep making your insecurities an issue, you will lose him over that, not your weight.

 

You know, I have been both heavy and slim. I have now lost over 80 lbs and am finally happy with my weight. You know what though? It didn't change my insecurities. I still have insecurities...a lot of them. Read my other posts in the other various forums. I struggle with a lot of them.

 

The only one that can give you confidence and inner peace is YOU. It cannot come from anyone else. Take care of how you feel about you before you worry about what anyone else thinks.