How to turn a booty call into something more serious?

[tuatara]

Hey peeps!

 

So I have been sleeping with this one girl for the 4th time now, but it kind of feels just like a booty call. We don't talk much during the week, and just hangout at night, and in the mornings. I want something more serious than that. Any idea how to make the transition over?

[lavenderdove]

Start asking her to do things out of bed... to go somewhere with you... a museum or an event or party, anything that gives you time to spend together and talk and have a relationship outside of bed. If she turns you down, it can open a discussion as to whether she wants to date you or just wants a FWB situation. It is also perfectly acceptable to tell her that you'd like to try things out and spend more time together than just sex and she what she says. If she says not interested, then at least you know and can put your efforts into dating other girls and not expecting too much from her.

[shaynah]

Lavenderdove said it well. Just ask her to go for coffee, or breakfast in the morning. See if you get along and can make conversation. If so, you might want to keep hanging out or make plans to see each other during the day. Try and be casual about it, and it should naturally turn into more if you're compatible.