Asking out on Facebook?

[lest]

I am in college and last year I ended up hanging out with this guy after a small get-together and we made out that night. Afterward he came and talked to me a few times but I got involved with someone else before anything else could happen. He was gone all last semester but now he is back and both times I have run into him he has come up and talked to me. I want to ask him to hang out some time but I only ever see him in really public/group situations where it isn't really appropriate. I don't want to keep waiting for the right moment. From a man's perspective, would it be okay to send him a casual message on facebook and see if he wants to hang out some time? Or does that come off as too forward or just unattractive?

 

Please only respond with real advice or input, no need for sarcasm or rude comments!

 

Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

[MikNomis]

It's fine to ask him to hang out through facebook, people do it all the time and so do my friends and I. Way more important is asking as opposed to how.

[bubble16]

yeah definitely go for it. i don't think there's anything wrong with asking on facebook.

[lest]

Okay, thanks guys! What should I say in a message to him??

[Tom1990]

Casual, be brief, just matter-of-fact. Asking out on Facebook or email or any type of Internet messaging, has the risk of getting too long. It's easy to go into what you think, how you feel, why you're asking them out, etc etc etc. Just say "Hey want to do this with me?" or words to that effect. That's what I prefer, anyway.

[m8check]

There's nothing wrong with it. Some men even love it when women take the initiative to contact them. Ask him the way you would when asking a friend.

[happpybear]

eh. maybe cause i'm older, i dunno, but if a guy asked me out on FB i would think it kinda weird. Maybe chat with him on FB and get his number, and then ask him out via the phone.

[MikNomis]

If you're both young, meaning grew up in the generation of internet and all that then asking over fb/text is fine, trust.

[lest]

Alright, how does this sound:

 

Hey ___

I hope this doesn't come off as too forward but I was wondering if you would want to hang out some time soon? Hope your semester is staring off well.

 

Take

[lest]

The end should say:

 

Take care,

___

[Klokwurk]

Don't say "hope this doesn't sound too forward"

 

That just sounds weak.

 

Start off with, "I was wondering if you want to get coffee/tea sometime this week?"

 

Way better.

[Klokwurk]

And don't say "take care," it's not like you just wrote a lengthy email or something. And don't say "hope your semester is starting g off well" either.

 

In fact, just say that first line.

 

Keeps it casual, makes it clear, and does not make you look like a puppy dog.

[chitown9]

I would suggest that you be specific. Would you like to meet me at Starbucks Saturday morning about 10 a.m.? Something like that. And as already mentioned, don't add anything else whatsoever. Good luck!

[MikNomis]

Yah I agree with the above two posters, try not to come accross so question-y. Say it like we should or wanna hang out instead of would you like to. Would you like to just sounds too formal, gotta make it more lighthearted.