butterflycloud Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Hi everyone.... I have recently met a man that is interested in dating. 'On paper' he presents most of what I am looking for but there is a huge gapping hole...He is not spiritually enlightened at all. He seems to be very earth bound by materialism, winning, being overly proud etc...basically ego based all the way. 'I do not stand in judgement of who and what he is but what worries me is that ultimately it wont work because we seem to be on different sides of the ' emotional and spiritual' seesaw... I have been through much pain in my life and have thus sought deeper meaning in my life, try to let go of ego and to live in gentleness with great consideration for others.. compassion being above all my heart's desire. Will this relationship work? I have many fears and a child involved so would rather walk away if its not right... Any insight would be greatly appreciated...thanks x Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 My guess is it won't work. Link to comment
Ayanokōji Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 The difference between a spiritually enlightened person and a materialistic person is the difference between sky and ground, it is a more fundamental of a difference than anything else perceivable so I would say you will have your frustrations in the future should you pursue a relationship with him. Link to comment
DN Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 No, it won't work, you don't respect him, you seem to think you are somehow better than him and, contrary to what you say, you judge him adversely for who he is. Link to comment
iamkaylee Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 I agree, it won't work. You have a major fundamental difference and that never bodes well for a successful relationship. Link to comment
Ayanokōji Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Dear Algebra, please stop asking us to find your X. She's not coming back. We don't know Y either. Ha, DN your signature is funny. Link to comment
butterflycloud Posted January 21, 2013 Author Share Posted January 21, 2013 Please dont think that I judge him...I dont at all. No one is better than another at the end of the day. We are all just in different spaces for different reasons...just wanting to know if our spaces could merge.... Link to comment
DN Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Please dont think that I judge him...I dont at all. No one is better than another at the end of the day. We are all just in different spaces for different reasons...just wanting to know if our spaces could merge....Well, you say things like 'overly proud', 'earthbound by materialism', 'ego based all the way'. Do you not think that is judgemental? Link to comment
butterflycloud Posted January 21, 2013 Author Share Posted January 21, 2013 DN ....I didnt mean it sound judgemental...was just trying to highlight that fact that there are differences there. There are parts of me that too are ego based but I try to have the awareness of that. Link to comment
Hoagy Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Maybe someone without his head in the clouds might help keep you grounded and vice versa. You're a team and you both bring different things to the table. How could the Fantastic Four defeat Dr Doom if they all had the same superpowers? Link to comment
butterflycloud Posted January 21, 2013 Author Share Posted January 21, 2013 Hoagy... Very good point...Do you suggest that I address this with him or just see how things develop? Link to comment
Kamisaur Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 Depends on how flexible you both are. I'm religious but the guy I'm currently seeing is very atheist. Neither of us really care and we've talked about religion a lot and actually agree on a lot. You seem rather judgmental of his lack of faith, to be honest. =\ Link to comment
FYI Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 You can't compromise on spiritual faith, it's either there or it's not. I know non believers who have a much higher moral compass than those of people who claim to be otherwise. I sometimes find myself somewhere in between. Link to comment
blueidealist24 Posted January 21, 2013 Share Posted January 21, 2013 I tried to date a guy like that once and he just judged me and acted with a superior attitude toward me. He believed that I did everything by feelings and therefore wasn't smart because my main goal wasn't to become rich like him. I felt awful for months about myself afterward. I'd suggest you don't even try it. Link to comment
butterflycloud Posted January 22, 2013 Author Share Posted January 22, 2013 Should I perhaps talk to him about it...tell him my fears? Link to comment
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