Sad Boy Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 Hi im 18 Ive been in relation with this girl for 8 months and at this point we hav nothing to talk but we want to talk, Im litreally bored talking or texting(we text all day long) and she is too. and i almost know everything in her life , her hobbies, her favs, her aims, her dreams, her friends, her fav music, her friends, her family, childhood stuff..everything I really love her but at this point we are bored talking to each other! help uss!!!!! what to talk ? How to make it exciting and NOT BORING? Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 Uh go out and have fun. Instead of just texting and talking. Link to comment
BrianH46 Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 Ah I've been in this predicament before and here is my advice: Although it feels counter intuitive but just because you are dating someone and even married to someone does not mean you have to spend every waking minute in touch. It may seem like a good way to build a strong bond, which it does but only to an extent after you reach a certain point it'll be going against you not only do you feel bored, so does she. Usually this results in either you or her questioning the relationship rather then how you two maintain it. Being selfless and spending time with your SO is vitally important to a healthy and rewarding relationship however being with ones self is equally important. Make time for yourself in which your gf cannot have access to, find the correct balance between self and gf unique to your relationship and you'll be a happy guy. Link to comment
Coconut Twin Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 Both of you's (if you don't already have them) need to have interests outside of the relationship. Then you won't have time to be constantly "talking", "texting" and whatnot.. Link to comment
ToF Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 Texting all day long is boring. I'm surprised you've kept it up this long, without getting bored sooner. I would hazard a guess that you have not run out of things to talk about, but that you are just texting too often. Spend more time together in person, and in between dates, cut down on the texting. Link to comment
MikNomis Posted June 29, 2012 Share Posted June 29, 2012 When you notice that there's not much being said, end the conversation by saying you gotta do something and you'll talk to them a little later. Nicely of course. Link to comment
Roxie84 Posted July 6, 2012 Share Posted July 6, 2012 At 18 you are way too young to be staying to committed to someone who have dry conversation with. If communication has become boring I'd make 2 suggestions: 1. Slow down the texts. Texting about your every move all day long will get boring with anybody! One of my girlfriends texts me all the time because she doesn't talk to many people - I love her and we've been best friends for years, but it drives me nuts! JUST NOW! She messaged me to say she's itchy!! lol Texting all day will make convo dry with anyone. Its time to cool that down so you'll have something to talk about when you meet up. 2. Go out and do new things! Have something to laugh about together. Maybe find a mutual hobby you both enjoy, like playing a sport or game, and get into that. If this doesn't work, the problem may not be that you have nothing to talk about, it may just be that you have nothing in common. If you don't connect on an intellectual level and you find each other boring, this relationship is just a glorified booty call. You're so young! If you find real love at 18, that's great. But if you feel like you're settling for less, then why bother continuing this? If the conversation sucks now, what's it going to be like when you're 40? Link to comment
pl3asehelp Posted July 6, 2012 Share Posted July 6, 2012 Do you have the same expectation of friends and family, that their conversations with you should always be entertaining to you? Link to comment
epsilon2x Posted July 15, 2012 Share Posted July 15, 2012 Hi im 18 Ive been in relation with this girl for 8 months and at this point we hav nothing to talk but we want to talk, Im litreally bored talking or texting(we text all day long) and she is too. and i almost know everything in her life , her hobbies, her favs, her aims, her dreams, her friends, her fav music, her friends, her family, childhood stuff..everything I really love her but at this point we are bored talking to each other! help uss!!!!! what to talk ? How to make it exciting and NOT BORING? I'll repeat what I tell everyone. Quit texting for conversation. Only text if you have something to say like "hey I'm running 15 minutes late". Besides, you're only 18... you guys should be doing other stuff all day. Link to comment
SoulSilver Posted August 11, 2012 Share Posted August 11, 2012 I agree with everyone ehre who said you should be limiting your contact with her , chat just once a day . take some time for yourself without talking to her a whole day even . when you have e a life of your own I am sure you can coem accross of interesting things or funny stuff . also , find something you two can talk about in common , whether it's a class together , or a certain tv show , something from the news , or maybe even a bit of non hurtful gossip , can give you alot of ideas on what to talk about . if you want to keep it exciting in a way , sllow yourself to be creative and ridicilous at times , or focus on the feelings those things give you , and the deeper views each of you has on certain things . plus , going out somewhere will naturally draw situations to you where you'll talk about the randomest things Link to comment
blueidealist24 Posted August 15, 2012 Share Posted August 15, 2012 Like others said, you don't need to talk ALL DAY, and if you can you should go out and do things with her instead of just texting and talking. Link to comment
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