Torn between out of sight, out of mind, absence..fonder

[whattheheck]

I have been doing NC for a while now (3-4 weeks) but still wonder if "out of sight, out of mind" might be happening. I tend to think that it would almost be better to at least give my ex a casual email every 2-3 weeks.

 

I know everybody says that NC is best for healing, which I agree.

 

But is NC really the best for getting a second chance?

 

I'm sure this has been debated before, but still not quite convinced which is the best for a possible reconciliation.

[cassiana]

I have read that the key to getting your ex back is hope mixed with doubt.

 

NC is good because it allows you to calm down. You may be angry and bitter but if you want your ex back better to keeep that to yourself. A few weeks break will help there.

 

NC will help them doubt there hold on you. The occasional text will give them hope. However if you do it regularly at whatever spce intervals, you are becoming predictable so you lose the element of doubt. Mix it up a little.

[whattheheck]

Ugh!!! What to do!!! Nothing is easy, especially dealing with relationships!!!