charmed83 Posted November 21, 2011 Share Posted November 21, 2011 Hi everyone, i got a lot of replies from people on this forum on my previous posts, so thank all very much!! I still have a lot of doubts about my ex. I think my ex is only interested in friendship but i want him back, so i just want to have no contact. But i still feel like i have to write to let him know how i think about a lot of things. I am changed in my opions about some things, things that where a problem for him, like i was never really showing interest in his study philosophy. You see after 8 months time alone and realizing what happened in the last years i think i wasen't so interested cause i was busy with other things and cause i was thinking these books where to difficult for me anyway, it was somethng for him and no for me as i had other interests ( that we also shared) But now i look back i feel so stupid cause it was ofcorse important to him that i coulden't talk and understand philosopic thoughs and idea's and i diden't do much for it to try to understand so i feel like i failed at that point and that was also a reason why he said that we coulden't share much. He never really mentioned he coulden't share philosophy in particular but now he has a new girlsfriend who is very interested in this, so i think he was always searching for a partner who could share this with him. Now recently i have been reading some books of philosophy and i wanted to let him know that i now understand his thoughts and idea's a lot better. I think i want to let him know cause i also hope that somehow he will maybe be interested in me again and it will get us closer , since he recently contacted me again after 10 months. asking me how i am doing and he's still thinking about the break up almost every day. He's with another girl but he also made big move to go to her country and he's only there for 3 months now, so i have my doubts if he only wants friendship or he's maybe testing the waters with me cause he's not sure about his new relationship. So there are two things on my mind: Either i want to try to get him back, since he has shown interest in me and contacted me while i was never contacting him for 8 months and i have to show him interest and be open about a lot things in my life right now and show him i am changed on some parts. Or i will not have friendship and contact cause i can't, and i will give up all hope for him ever coming back and then i will not send him an email that i am changed on some parts cause it will not be good for my healing etc to have contact when his intensions are only to have friendship. Link to comment
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