Enigmatical Posted November 20, 2011 Share Posted November 20, 2011 I am frustrated because I feel like my boyfriend causes me to spend more money than I would on my own. I'm not quite sure that he does this intentionally or even realizes it, but I feel like I always end up spending more money than I am willing because he make suggestions. For example, we get paid on the same day. I usually figure everything out in my head and figure "Ok I should have 40 extra dollars to get some groceries" and I like to pay rent and bills first and then whatever is left over goes to food and other needs. But he seems to want to do it the opposite. As soon as we get out paycheck, he suggests we go out to eat at some fast food place. We usually pay for our own food when we go out to eat. He gets irritated if I say I am not hungry or am trying to save money for some reason. So sometimes I will cave to avoid any conflict and I have to admit, sometimes it is hard to resist because I like fast food and restaurant food myself. Another thing he does is that he asks me to pay for half of certain things he wants. If he has a few extra dollars for a video game or some new clothes, or some other purchase of desire... he'll ask me to pitch in...even if he can afford it all. He also asks me to help him pay for gas even though I don't drive and he says, "Well I take you places you want to go so I think you could help out" which I do understand, but he drives a gas guzzling Dodge Ram. And it just seems like I always end up paying over what I expect to pay and it's usually because he will talk me into it. I hate to say it but sometimes I feel the need to hide or keep hush about any extra money that I receive somehow because once he knows I have more money, he's like, "Oh cool now we can go get that ___ that we wanted" or something like that. He's always running out of money and groceries way faster than me and that's usually when he starts borrowing from me or friends. Yesterday he borrowed $10 from a friend for gas to put in his truck and he asked me to help pay it back the next time we get paid. He's bak account is empty and he doesn't know I still have $50 but that is saved back to go to rent on the 1st. If he knew I had that 50, he would want us to get more food or gas for the truck, but if I spend that $50 before next paycheck...I won't be able to cover my entire rent portion if that makes sense. I just don't know how to control my own money better. Link to comment
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