lozzy1980 Posted November 19, 2011 Share Posted November 19, 2011 HI guys... Had some tragic news last night, one of my ex's best mates died suddenly yesterday. I do still see his mates from time to time,and we've all been very close mates for 6-7 yrs now. One of his other friends contacted me to break the bad news, and i did say then to pass my thoughts on to all of them. But i know that this is gonna rip my ex apart - theyve been friends for many many yrs, since late teens , and they are in early 30s now. they do , sorry did, everything together, holidays, going out, playing xBox live together which used to drive me nuts!!! Thing is, i just want to say how sorry i am and that thinking of him.. it was him that dumped me, and i have pretty much healed and moved on, he has also moved on with a new GF. I just dont know what to do, they all became mutual friends and this is so hard. Also, me and my friends are going the funeral so i'd see him there anyway though i'd keep it very short civil etc. The mate who contacted me also asked us to all go this night next wk that he was really looking forward to but i said no to that, not only due to the ex but i also have a very large uni assignment on at the moment, deadline in 2 wks. So.. if i am going to bump into him at the funeral anyway... shall i send a text .... or is even that not appropriate should it be a card? or nothing at all??? I know he hurt me and I knw at the time i said i dont think we can ever be friends again... but that i didnt hate him, ;. and i dont want anything to come of this contact at all. its not like that. i am so upset as it is to hear about this friend's death he was truly a lovely lovely man, and my heart really does go out to my ex cos i know how much he meant to him... this is going to devastate him. Also i lost a close friend a few yrs ago and he was there for me and supported me through hell and back over that. I know he has his mates and new GF for support, i just want to tell him i am sorry... i know when others showed that they cared when my friend died it was some sort of comfort. And if i do send him a message...any ideas what i say??? and then i feel a right stupid * * * * * for even stressing over all this when a good man has just died and i know its not about me etc... but still... I welcome your thoughts and any advice - but please be gentle i am pretty upset myself over this news. Thanks Link to comment
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