chili601 Posted November 18, 2011 Share Posted November 18, 2011 I am finding myself forced to celebrate the holidays with just my sister this year. My sister and I both have jobs that obligate us to work some holidays for long hours. My boyfriend always has off work for holidays. I have no close family members in the area besides my sister. My boyfriends family all lives here. On the holidays when my sister works, I go with my boyfriend to celebrate holidays with his family. When both my sister and I work, my boyfriend still gets to celebrate the holidays with his family; however, my sister and I pretty much have no holiday. If I work the holiday, my sister is home alone. Due to work obligations she and I are unable to travel to visit siblings in other parts of the country around holidays. My dilema is this year, we both have off work and I wanted my boyfriend to spend the holiday with MY family, even though it would only be myself and my sister. He has already determined that he is spending the holiday with his family. Of course, I am welcome to come, but that leaves my sister alone. She and my boyfriend are not close, and she does not feel comfortable going over his family's house. I know I cannot convince her to come, especially since she has gotten used to being alone sometimes for the holidays (when I have to work). I have been with my boyfriend for a LONG time and I feel like he always puts his family first. Other couples I know "split" the holidays between both families. I have limited holidays to celebrate because my sister and I can't get off work, and she and I have limited holidays off together. I feel like both my sister and my boyfriend expect me to choose between them. I can't leave my sister because she's the only close family I have left. Am I really expecting too much of my boyfriend to be away from his family for once? Link to comment
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