bookworm7 Posted November 7, 2011 Share Posted November 7, 2011 Hello everyone, I don't have any female friends that I feel comfortable talking to in depth about this particular issue, so I thought I'd try a forum out. I love my boyfriend. He is the perfect guy for me, but I feel that we have some minor problems in the bedroom. I'm in my early 20's, he is in his late 20's, we've been dating for almost a year. I'm really serious about him but there seems to be a recurring theme of sexual issues that we have. I want sex much more then him. At first, when we began having intercourse, we had it everyday 2-3 times a day. It dwindled after a while to once a day, then once every other day, then once every 2 days, these days it's once every 3-4 days and this past week we didn't have sex for more then a week, just once last night for a short amount of time. He said that we haven't had sex for more then a week because I was on my period, but we've had sex multiple times while I've been bleeding and he was fine with it. It seems that he sees sex as way less important then I do. We've had many a talk about this, often out of my frustration and often ending in me crying and him upset. I'm a very sexual person, and also a very sensitive one. Its really embarrassing for me to be constantly trying to initiate things and him just staring at the TV while I'm kissing his neck and rubbing up against me. When he does initiate something, I feel resentful because I feel I've been waiting for him to get turned on for days and I'm aggravated. I've also tried different lubes and costumes, rough sex, sex in different locations, none of it really seems to turn him on all that much except for having sex in a certain location which I don't really like, and also it sort of upsets me to see how much more turned on he gets when we have sex in this location compared to when we have it at home. It's really hard for me because the more disinterested he gets, the more I realize that I want to have sex with him more and more. He feels that quality is better then quantity, and that sex becomes meaningless if had everyday. I disagree and feel that it does not lose meaning for me, and that its a psychical expression of love and desire for one another. Like I said, I'm a very sexual person, he's even suggested that I may be a nymphomaniac, but I don't think it's to that extent. Hes said that hes watched his friends and their girlfriends, and noticed that things get stale fast if they force themselves to make love every night just to keep it up and for routine. I agree that that is not healthy, but it's not "forced" for me because I DO want to make love every night. I don't even feel comfortable walking away and masturbating because we don't live together yet and that seems awkward to me if it's not my house. I really love him and I don't like to keep bringing this up to him. The conversation just seems to go nowhere because he does not like talking about sex and it's uncomfortable bringing it up to him, but I would really like some advice on how to express my feelings in a non-frustrated way that demonstrates that I respect his feelings. Thanks for reading! Link to comment
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