Soufpaw Posted November 4, 2011 Share Posted November 4, 2011 First off: I know the title doesn't give much away, but I couldn't think of anything better right this moment. Secondly, here is my story: When my girlfriend and I broke up after 6 months, it wasn't because either of us cheated but because all we ever did for weeks on end was argue. It was a long distance relationship, but I find 3 hrs drive very managable. She broke it up because she was sick of all the fighting, I was in pieces, but left her alone, she initiated contact, which we never really lost, even though we did have our ups and downs during that period (about 3 months). We met twice during that time, always having a good time together, and ended up sleeping with each other each time as well. On the last meet-up, almost 2 weeks ago, I asked her right before I left if we could give things another go and she agreed. I didn't beg, I simply asked, and she said yes. However, we now seem to be on two different points of view because I feel like I need and want to be affectionate (mostly verbally, as it is all we have for the next 2 weeks) but it never gets returned. She is nice to me and she calls whenever she can (she is having a really busy time at college and work lately and barely has time for herself). Everytime something like "If I was there I'd want to cuddle up in bed with you right now" is said, I am the one who initiated this sort of topic. We are in constant contact during the day through txts and phone calls, but WHAT she says is platonic. An example: We used to have this ritual that the person who first gets up sends the other a morning txt, usually something to make the other feel loved and appreciated. After asking if I could have one the other day, I get "Good morning, hope you had a good sleep". And that's it. Before we started the arguing in "round 1", she was much more affectionate, even though - to be fair - it has to be said that she is not the type of person to verbalize her emotions or talk about "heart stuf" much, she just can't. Occasionally she used to though, which made it even more special when she did. I have addressed this a few times already since we got back together, and she got annoyed everytime, telling me that we have only been back together for a few days. (>>>????? what does she mean by that???) She doesn't say "hey, I know it's hard for you right now but give me a little more time and it will come back, I'm sure. You know what I'm like." This would be exactly what I need to hear right now because I am scared and insecure because I fear I will lose her again. I am not pressing on or anything, I just thought "give it a few days and she will come round", but it's been 12 days now and there is no "love you". I understand there is no "I love you" but "love you" or "I'm really happy to have you". Everytime I ask her if she regrets her decision she says no. Her main point is that "jesus, it's only been 12 days" me: "yes, but it gets tiring to say things to make you feel loved and it never gets returned" her: "never? you make it sound like it didn't get returned for 3 years, it's only been 12 days. it's normal that it's not that close again yet." Is it really? Link to comment
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