spring2507 Posted November 1, 2011 Share Posted November 1, 2011 so about a year ago my boyfriend cheated on me it was more of an affair we have 4 years together going on 5 and im 20 he is 21. When i found out about the cheating i broke up with him for 3 months then got back with him because i really do love him and i figured he made a big mistake and was willing to give him a chance to make it better. It's been a year now and im away at college so its hard to make the relationship work i also have found that i cant see him the same again as though he is tainted. Because he did not only sleep with this girl but take her out on dates and do many of the the things we did together so now i dont feel as special anymore. He has been trying but not hard enough are relationship is the same as before the cheating. What hurts the most is that this girl had a bf as well when she cheated with my boyfriend and its hard to see her all happy and still with her boyfriend and here i am still trying to deal with this and put the pieces back together . My main questions are: 1) i decided that me and my boyfriend need time apart since i feel that being with him only reminds me of him being with her and it hurts come to the realization that the person i truly love and want to be with i cant be with because of what he did and the fact that it keeps popping up in my mind. Im away at college and he decided to give me my space we are not together but he still wants to be in contact...idk if thats a good or bad idea should i stay in contact or cut off completely? 2)this whole situation has made me question everything i always believed in i feel like being a good person and loyal never gets you anywhere and that in the end it will be overlooked i managed to be a good gf and at the end of the day all that was thrown out the window for this girl who came in out of nowhere and took everything i worked hard for (relationship) and here she is that she did this horrible thing and she gets to keep her bf and be happy and me that did nothing wrong here i am miserable and dealing with this and struggling to make my relationship work...my boyfriend is trying he is but at the end of the day i can never get her and him out my mind what should i do??? Link to comment
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