: (I need your help

[forever]

hi umm ii came on here because I'm having problems with the love of my life and I can't talk to n.e of my friends because noone of them support our relationship and right now I don't know what to do I feel stupid for posting this but I've got noone to talk to he's my best friend my everything and as of an hour ago I decided for us to take a break and its killing me already I'm just so hurt by his jelousy mayb he's right to expect so much from me but I've changed a lot A lot for him in many aspects if not all of my life so he won't be jelous so our relationship can work out but today he told me that I don't know made it seem I'm not doing enough that hurt me so much I thought the only way for him to realize how much I do do for him is him taking a break from us and realizing how much I do I love him so much I feel like I'm hurting him I'm so afraid of losing him I don't know what to do the pain I feel inside right now is so unbearable ..

tell me what you think....

 

thanks : /

 

my love if you read this

I love you so much I am missing you like hell

[paul475]

...a two week break of zero contact seems like the best approach. Both people need to be clear what it's about, what the rules are, and where you will meet up to discuss your relationship at the end of the two weeks. That's the general approach. Read Dr. Susan Forward's book on Obsessive Love for more details.

 

My specific sense about your situation is that you are tolerating, at least, emotional abuse from your partner. I can tell you from experience that this almost always escalates into physical abuse and violence.

 

My dear, you have a ka-ka magnet inside of you that you have to learn to turn, "off," or you will simply find another abuser to be heartbroken over.

 

In the words of Maya Angelou, "When someone SHOWS you whom they are for the first time, believe them."

[forever]

thanks a lot for your advice I apreciate it big time ...but that same day I emailed him and we got to talking and we got back together I can't be without him I love him so much I don't think he would ever be abusive with me he's really sweet to me he really loves me he makes me so happy all I ask for is some apreciation for everything I do for him that's all and we r working on that ..thanks a lot for the advice : )

[yours_forver]

He DOES appreciate you! It is jut that sometimes he focuses on things that happpened in the past, which have caused him to lose that trust. He is really sorry for not showing his appreciation but he wants you to know that everyday he is thankful for the extra effort you are taking to keep those irrational thoughts from consuming him.

 

Also if I... err if HE is ever emotionally abusive to you, you have permission to kick my... ahem his ass. He loves you way too much to ever want to see you suffering in anyway.

[forever]

thanks for your reply "yours_forever" I do believe you are right : ) he does love me so mcuh I'm so happy with him I can't possibly live without his love he is my everything he melts me with just the thought of him : ) he is my soul mate my omg I love him : D he is the sweetest guy in the world ...if only you met him ; ) .....I love him more than he loves me though someday he'll realize : p....

I am so eternally his only his someday he will realize that as well he is so perfect for me I can't possibly want to lose that for anything in the world because without his love I am nothing he completes me in everyway leaves me craving for more not even the lifetime we will spend together as husbend and wife will be enough to show him how much I love him ...

I'm glad we worked things out : )

 

if yer reading this my love

I love you always will our love is boundry less it is eternal : )