yours_forver

Emmylu, it was a monogomous relationship, she knew i had an issue with relationships in the past ending because of cheating... And she did commit herself... claiming that the girls in my past were %$@#ed up because of what they did... yet... she did it four times more often... I have never taken a girl back in the past for cheating... If it were an issue of shopping around i had many opportunities to do the same... But saying she "just" dated other men... if you are in a relationship... and you decide its exclusive... dating other people should not be an issue. Married or not, that is cheating.

ha ha ha, love the analogies, so true... It's just hard to think that there is actually a girl out there that doesn't cheat when im yet to meet one. I'm sick of people excusing what she did because of her age, i never cheated when i was her age, but i guess our relationship was founded on her lies so it was doomed to start with... thanks for the advice.

yeah unfortunately when we met she told me she was 17, when she was 14... by the time i found out her age i was already madly in love. The relationship has never been sexual... for my part anyway. Had i known the truth to start with things might have been different now... but you can't choose who you love. And her parents are strict jehovah's witnesses, they would let her date a guy of any age, just as long as he is a jehovah's witness... which i am not.

I was told to get an unbiased opinion on this so... here goes. I have been in a 3 year relationship with a girl 7 years younger than me. Prior to the relationship I have had 6 other girlfriends, all of which cheated on me... Because of this I came into the relationship with some major trust issues. I let my girlfriend know this but not long after we started our relationship she went on a date with another guy and throughout the relationship has cheated four times. I have come to the conclusion that its just something that happens based on past experiences, unfortunately my trust for her is nil... she went through a period where she tried to prove her trust by opening up every aspect of her life to me to prove it was passed, that she would be faithful... Unfortunately she only opened up what she wanted and cheated again but hid it from me. After the fourth time she claimed she would be faithful, of course I don't believe her but because of her age (17) and the fact we are in a long distance relationship I don't know whether to cut her some slack. Her friends tell me she is young its to be expected, my friends are constantly trying to set me up with other girls and don't understand my willingness to be faithful to an unfaithful girl.... anyway... We are currently on a break... my jealousy peeked and proved too much for both of us... I just wanted to know, from an unbiased opinion, whether I should cut her some slack because of her age and the long distance issue... or if I should call it quits. I do love this girl, and when things are good between us I feel like everything could work out... but her parents are strict religious types that restrict her every move... and because of this I think she has become used to do the wrong thing and hiding it... Is there any hope for her?... Also what can I do to learn to trust again? If not with my current girlfriend then any girl in the future…

He DOES appreciate you! It is jut that sometimes he focuses on things that happpened in the past, which have caused him to lose that trust. He is really sorry for not showing his appreciation but he wants you to know that everyday he is thankful for the extra effort you are taking to keep those irrational thoughts from consuming him. Also if I... err if HE is ever emotionally abusive to you, you have permission to kick my... ahem his ass. He loves you way too much to ever want to see you suffering in anyway.