is crying ok

[slammin16]

Just curious for the ladies out there. If you dumped someone and your ex cried in front of you because of it, what would you think?

 

wimp?... loser?... he cares?

[fire2therain]

I don't think really any of those things. I mean he obviously cares that it's happening because he's crying. I sympathize with him because I know when I was dumped I was upset too.

[faithful14]

I would feel to see them hurting and I would sympathize.

[Di84]

Im not sure I understand this question.... are you asking why the dumpee would cry when they are broken up with? or why the dumper cries when they leave someone?

I think it's obvious that the dumpee cries because they are heartbroken and cared. Often, I think the dumper cries out of guilt for hurting the dumpee.

[InkkedBree]

I wouldn't judge. I don't judge on behavior. For me, it's not what you are, it's who you are. I would just think he cares, he's hurting, and I would hurt for him.

[slammin16]

for di84, I am asking from the dumpees perspective.

[slammin16]

love the quote inkkedbree

[mines]

I would think he truly loves/cares for me, if he cried when I ended the relationship.

 

(thinking of any guys I have had relationships with) I never think of a guy as a wimp, or weak, etc., if he cries. In fact, my recent/current BU (the reason I am here!) and I have remained close friends, and he confides in me. He is the most macho masculine hunky piece of work man I've ever seen, lol, and he has cried in front of me, a few times.

[bulletproof]

I wouldn't think anything bad about someone showing how they feel, except in the rare case that it was being used to manipulate. But if someone is getting dumped, I imagine crying would be a pretty normal response.

[catfeeder]

I would think it's a perfectly natural response to being hurt. I wouldn't think negatively about him at all--unless he followed me around or kept tracking me down by phone to keep doing it. That has made me go cold.

[Sjan]

I cried in front of my ex a few times after being dumped, she held my hand ones and she hugged me once. She didn't say a word though, I felt reliefed after crying and I knew already while crying that our relationship was 100% over. If my ex would cry I don't know what I would do, hug her too? I don't know, I would care for sure but I'm such a fragile person, I think I prolly would talk with her and trying together to make it work again. Seeing someone cry breaks my heart.

[ferna3069]

man when my ex broke up with me. we both cried. i felt so emberassed. i never been in so much pain. it made it worse when she got on her knease and begged me not to go. but i couldnt stay infront of the girl i love . it would just hurt me more