5 Words I hate the most

[Dougie_D]

"You Are Trying Too Hard"

 

What exactly does this mean? In life, the common phrase is "You have to try harder"

but in finding a relationship it's the opposite?

 

This phrase bothers me and I want to really know what it means. If it means "Dude, no one thinks your attractive"...then say it!

[agent1607307371]

In terms of relationships it means you are pushing the interaction too far too fast, or being too fake to try and impress people. Which just unimpresses them.

 

When it comes to people you have to learn to relax. Some will like you, some won't. You can't really control it.

[PonytailFairy]

I was already going but....

 

Do not pay attention for people who says things like that

 

And do not let them fool you with another 5 words:

 

"never gonna give you up" - that is just a mean trap

[1991kmh]

And do not let them fool you with another 5 words:

 

"never gonna give you up" - that is just a mean trap

 

I approve of this message.

Kait

[bulletproof]

Are people in your life telling you that you are trying too hard? If so, ask them what they mean exactly. Chances are, you are too focused on finding a gf, and either indiscriminately hitting on anyone, and/or being too forward when you do hit on someone.

[engraved2008]

"You Are Trying Too Hard"

 

What exactly does this mean? In life, the common phrase is "You have to try harder"

but in finding a relationship it's the opposite?

 

This phrase bothers me and I want to really know what it means. If it means "Dude, no one thinks your attractive"...then say it!

 

Thats what my ex said to me...but we were LDR....

[RedDress]

It's hard to say what "trying too hard" means for you without knowing you - but it usually means that you are going over the top.

 

I have a great example. I had a friend who thought that it was appropriate to give the woman he was dating flowers and that it would make her feel special. WELL... he started giving her flowers EVERY time he saw her. Flowers here, there and everywhere! Flowers when he picked her up for school. Flowers when he visited her at work. Going to the movies? Flowers! Seriously... I bet she had a room FULL of flowers. She broke up with him. LOL! What I don't think he 'got' was that less is more. ONE flower when you least expect it? Totally sweet! It lets you know that he was thinking of you... Flowers EVERY bloody time?? It starts to feel like he's trying to 'buy' you or something. It gets weird and loses it's meaning.

 

Rather than saying you are "trying too hard"... maybe "less is more" applies. Too much of ANYTHING (even chocolate!) is a bad thing... You are probably just laying it on too thick.

[italiannmf24]

In a relationship when this phrase comes up, your partner is telling you that your pushing things and trying to hard to create interaction, intercourse etc.

 

Don't take it personally, jut get laid back and don't put too much pressure on your partner for anything.