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Dougie_D

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  1. Hey, I'm not sure if I am slow learner. In college, I pretty much took every class over again... I'm not sure because I am slow or I just didn't care. I think it's more about I don't care about subjects. But also...I'm a dweller. I don't think I learn it "slowly"... I just get behind in things. I tend to make things a lot more difficult than they should be...I can over analyze things a lot. So I get caught up in the matter that is irrelevant. I have to make up the slack...and I get behind... Yeah...If I could take drugs for it...I would.
  2. Hey.. I'm just curious about all of this. Do girls dig a "mysterious" guy at a party? A bar? A show? In a crowd? At school? In class?.... Or...does the situation help if you are invited to a "get together", and you (the mysterious one) let your friend do all the interaction. They either want to know about you are just think that you are lame because you are not a social person... Basically what I am saying...is, that the "situation" has a lot to do with it. What do you guys think?
  3. hey thanks...for the comments.. But seriously... I think it's strickly by the looks. I'm taking on a new direction on this one. I'm pretty sure if I say a joke to a girl they will think it's stupid or don't give a crap. But a better looking dude says the same exact joke...they are all up on them. I think girls are a lot picky on looks than guys are. The not so good looking guys are the ones girls "tell all their problems about" and "tease" them. I hate that crap.
  4. Are girls really attracted guys like this...or is it strictly by their looks? Thanks!
  5. I actually work at a Sam's Club...but I'm pretty sure it's the same test. The whole test is about how honest a person is and how much you might rat on someone... As long as you don't give a "high rating" on the most absurd ones...like "yeah, I would smoke weed before I clocked in"... or " yeah, If I found some beer while I worked I would drink it and not tell anyone." Also,...Walmart won't hire unless they are looking for employees. I had applied at Sam's Club twice before I got it. The third time was when they put a "classified ad" looking for help. CARTS and CASHIERS are the easiest to get a job. Carts --- no one wants to do crap in the rain, thereforeeee no one really applies....and Cashiers --- the turnover is crazy....2 warnings and you are pretty much gone. Good Luck! ---
  6. I really think that if you get a job, you'll feel better about yourself and your mom will be more likely to support your music. I think most parents have a hard time supporting their childrens' dreams as they grow up. Especially in the arts....for young painters, it's the worst. The idea of parenting is to "be there." Well, when it comes to money...I'm pretty sure they don't want to "be there." A parents biggest fear is that their children won't be able to take care of themselves. Financially, is the top one. You can't go anywhere in life, without money. That's a fact. I wouldn't beat yourself over getting a job...but I would suggest, ever so often put in an application. Telling your mom that you really want a part-time job might help too. Before I got my job, my parents were always on my * * * about something and wouldn't leave me alone. They didn't really care about my music. Now, they give me more space,...and occasionaly will ask me if "I'm still playing.." and they always suggest of me "going out and jamming with people." They are willing to help out because they know if it doesn't work out...I am still paying my bills. --- Later ---
  7. My parents tried to "trick" me into talking to a professional one-on-one. That was funny. I went with their "trick." I think the guy got pissed off. I don't appreciate liars. My parents thought I was depressed. I'm not a depressed person...just pissed that I am the way I am. I'm more embarrased than anything. Now, here is the kicker. I was born with bad hearing. I used to wear hearing aids --- just imagine the crap I had to go through during my school years (all the way into 7th grade)--- I had an operation which allowed me to hear slightly better. Enough, that I didn't need hearing aids. For some dumb reason, I decided to pick up guitar when I was like 11. I've been in bands...and I was the only one wearing ear plugs. I also got into recording...but when I went to college, (for recording!!!) I kind of got this feeling why I am doing this? I don't have the greatest ears in the world? So I changed my major...but I changed it 4 more times...I was clueless and indescisive. Well, now...I'm not in a band anymore...And I've been freaking out for the past 4 years...because my hearing will occasionly get worse. That's one reason why I don't like going out. It kind of bothers me. Sometimes I think it's all in my head. I really do believe my mind has something to do with it. I'm way afraid to go an ear doctor. If I have to wearing hearing aids again I'll probably run off a bridge. So, that's a reason why I don't like playing my guitar anymore. I'm terrified that I'll go deaf...and I am very envy of people who play music without ear plugs and have perfect hearing. So... I really feel screwed sometimes. All my life people have made fun of me. That's all I know in life. I never take compliments...because I feel they are fake. I make fun of myself with others. It's in my nature. The hardest part is when... I'm not talkative and observant. That's my TRUE SELF. People hate that... because they always think something is wrong...so I have to PRETEND to be: Talkative, outgoing, and just annoying. That's me in a nutshell.
  8. Hey.. I'm not really into jazz but I greatly appreciate guitarists who play it. The fact that you are "going down hill in life" makes no sense to me. The fact that you still want to play guitar is a good sign bro. I'm 26 years old, didn't get my first job until I was 24, never been on a date before, my father says the same things...about things I want are "wasteful" or "toys"...he doesn't care about my passion for anything, unless it's business. Playing music is a lot harder when you are my age. I don't have the desire anymore. That's because I don't do it for the passion. I wanted to get greedy and make money. That's a hard task...A lot of musicians feel this way. I think I have been brainwashed by the music industry and my parents. In Jazz, you might have a problem playing with people because they just can't keep up with you. I don't know if you go to college, but you can probably go and find a drummer in their music program. Honestly, why do you need a half stack? Is it for image? If you are doing recordings...then a combo amp would do just fine. Or jazz clubs. Most Jazz clubs are "Quiet"...so the guitarists don't have half-stacks. About the job thing....trust me....be a cart guy for Wal-mart. Easy as crap and you don't have to deal with people. You get paid a lot more than a grocery store. Good Luck bro!
  9. I honestly have a hard time enjoying things. The only thing I truly love is watching Charmed. I don't know why really. I get annoyed with people too easy. They get too uninteresting at times. I want something different all the time. I think that's why I strive to be in different groups. I'm neutral in about everything...not much opinion on anything. I don't care...seriously...I don't care about a lot of crap...maybe that's why I can get along with anyone. I listen what they say and go with it. Maybe I should be a judge?! About my relationship. I kind of want a "sex"buddy. But sometimes I want a girlfriend... I don't know. I can't make descisions very well. I changed my major 5 times in college! I have a fear of dying alone. I would like to cuddle with someone everynight. That's probably the reason why I am desperate to get a girl. It hurts to be surrounded by people who are married, hooked up, or have been in a relationship before. They all have stories and I have none. They like to tease me too. It hurts even more when they never hook me up with their friends,...because behind my back, they hook someone else. A lot of times I think they feel sorry for me and that's why they even talk to me. Thanks!
  10. This question is mostly for the girls. What are certain attributes to stay away from? So you don't look desperate. At my age, I feel a lot of pressure in being in a relationship. Helpful hints would be nice. I think this is my main problem. Thanks
  11. Honestly, I want to be part of the A&R department for a record label. Maybe a talent scout. The problem is my age... seriously. Record labels want young scouts. Most record labels have internship programs, but are unpaid and usually you need to be in college. I'm in my last semester for Video Production. I tried to get an internship with a record label but my school thought it was a little silly, since I am a Video Production Major. My parents are a BIG problem. They pretty much control me. It's hard to break it....I mean, they support me financial...since the only thing I officially own is my labtop and a few movies.
  12. I'm 26 years old and I have never accomplished anything. At least for myself. Relationships --- never had one, never been on a "real" date, never been kissed, etc... School --- Who gives a crap about my stupid degree? That was 5 years of waste... I didn't learn a thing! In one ear and out the other! And now I am about to get an associates degree in something I don't care about. Maybe an accomplishment to other people, who actually wanted to go to school. Money --- don't have much...Didn't get my first job until I was 24. I'm a cart attendant. What are you suppose to accomplish by the time you get to my age,? 26? I feel like a complete failure!!! --- Thanks!
  13. This is really general but I feel like I am a "death poll" Right before I went to college I had a friend that was killed. (18) 5 years later I come back to my hometown. A friend from highschool got killed. (24) Another friend got killed. (25) One of my new found friends mother recently passed away. (26) Am I bad luck??? Do I need to move out of town again?
  14. I'm not an expert...but when some you love commits suicide, do you want to do the same thing? I'm not trying to say --- don't help her ---but I like to think outside of the box. Let's examine things....be a detective! IS there a way to contact the boyfriend with out her knowing...like..."hey your boyfriend knows about this subject, I need some help on it..." and somehow ask him what he thinks without her knowing. Also....do the same she is! Have you noticed in conversations that there is always one person to "up you" in a story! Pretend that you are feeling really depressed about something...make her feel like she needs to be the hero! --- Doug
  15. I've come to a conclusion... I'm not very good looking but I have the guts to approach a girl in a crowd. I can talk to them and start a semi-conversation... When is the best time to ask for there number? Or how do you ask them? Thanks!
  16. No... but the more I think about it... I should be. I graduated from MTSU (Middle Tennessee State University( 30 minutes away from Nashville))... I actually went there for the recording industy. I took a bunch of classes and I decided I didn't want to be in it anymore...I didn't do too well in copyright law...but most people either fail or gets a D there first time. I said...screw it. I ended up changing my major like 5 times because I didn't care...I was in a band and I just wanted to play... well, that's a different story. I took enough classes to get a better understanding about the biz. Also, through my years I've became friends with people who ended up getting "signed." I kept on hearing the same stories and it doesn't hurt to still be in contact with people who eventually graduated in the program. I kind of regret not finishing it. One day though, I'll have my own label. Takes a lot of money (throwaway money) dedication, and patience.
  17. Let's start off with everyone else. Are they single and around your age? If none of them are single than the band is screwed. Being signed is like signing your life away. Seriously. All you do is tour and tour for the first 2 years. Especially if you are a newer band. You're professionally musicians. You are better off having a family later. I mean, seriously, if you get signed then a lot more women will know who you are and you'll have better chances. Here's another thing...don't let your "leader" talk with the A&R guy alone. Don't ever do that...because, he probably has something up his sleeve. All members of the band needs to be there. And you because you're a drummer needs to be on the good side with him. There might be a "pop singer" that needs a fresh new touring/studio drummer! Honestly...many people don't know this....but many labels sign bands just to get one person. Later the labels can use them for anything they want...as long as they are still under contract. Most become producers as well. But...sadly to say....if you don't get signed it's because of two things. 1. The band's overall age 2. The wives/girlfriends will convince your members not to
  18. I already have a degree...and I'm in my last semester at a community college for an associates...I'm backwards! I do hang out with my local scene....but I already know these people. When I was 14 or 15 I was hanging out with the college kids. It was called the "autonomy house"... the newer kids....are younger than me or think I'm already weird. I've tried to start bands with these kids and they won't even give me a chance...I don't blame them. When I was 18 I didn't really want to play with some guy close to 30. Let's say I go somewhere at a show, and I see a girl. Do I buy her a drink?? Should I say? Who are you here to see?....I've come to a conclusion though, after thinking about things. I can start a conversation...but I never have the guts to ask her for the number...I've never thought it was the right time. But I don't want to ask her if she's not feeling it?!!! I'm so lost!
  19. First off, do you know how her brother commited suicide? Or how her parents died? Maybe it will give you clues. Second... If I was her...I wouldn't commit suicide. I would feel too ashamed to...especially if I had seen my relatives hurt the way they were at my brother's funeral. I would still have a hard time focusing on school because of it...and that's why I couldn't do it. One poster was correct....I would just procrasonate...wishing that something better would come along and sweep me away. Now I'm very embarrassed about the whole thing....I'm not as strong as I used to be on touchy subjects....Yeah, suicide could be an answer but I don't think my brother or sis would approve. I don't like this life I'm in...I want another. I'll pack up my bags and act like nothings the matter. Tell everybody a lie. I'll throw my belongs one by one at certain locations...so there is some trail....but a trail that doesn't make any sense...Remember? I'm a smart one. I'll just be a RUNAWAY. That's my take.
  20. I need some help... I need real life situations like mine. Let's say you are alone and you just moved to a new place. You know no one. ...Where would you start? Is it lame to go by yourself? Remember I'm 26.
  21. No offense...but how is that funny. I'm turning 30 in about 4 more years. I need some help...
  22. I'm 26. I was probably either 22 or 23 when Senses Fail video taped me.
  23. Yup!!! That's me!...it's kind of funny. They weren't the first band to "want to show" people my little rap. Way before Atreyu got signed to Victory... They spent the night over this girls house I knew. We ate spagetti together...and I showed them the rap... They were "like dude!, you have to come on tour with us and do that on stage!" I kind of thought they were making fun of me and not being serious...I shouldv'e said yeah! I was still in college though. I think my personality can be too silly. And a lot of girls think I'm desperate... I guess I am... But sometimes I wonder if there were girls in my past that maybe wanted to date me, but decided not to because of what people would think. I wonder that a lot. I have the quick..."best friend" thing with anyone. Basically, we'll be friends for a month but it feels like 3 years. Now you know why people think I'm weird.... I wasn't drunk...but people think I am...so I go with the flow...make it an excuse. I never did drugs until college...but people in highschool called me Dougie the Drugie....because they thought I was high or just messed up...It's my personality... Damn it sucks. Especially trying to get a girlfriend. ---
  24. Well...is there any way to break it? The Best Friend Syndrome. I can talk to girls and stuff but I always get "I just want to be friends" reply...Also I think I need to approach girls without my guy friends...They like to embarrass me or the girl would rather talk to them than me. Anyways...I like this forum because a lot of you seem to like hardcore/metal stuff...That's a plus! I used to be in a band called Vatican Destroyer! If you want to get a good look at me...I'm on a Senses Fail DVD. Let It Enfold You split CD/DVD...Go to the "In the beginnings"...scene selecton...and I'm about 2 minutes in. I'm doing my Dougie D Rap! I'm thinking maybe this might the reason I don't get girls....I've been doing this for people ever since 7th grade. The dance and all! I really need to find a girl that likes me. Thanks ---
  25. Hey...guys...I'm actually thankful that people are willing to give me advice...But I'm looking for something specific. Just another quick question...is it bad that people call you "eccentric?" anyways.... Give me a scenerio on how to approach or talk to a girl. Let's say at a concert or bar. That's the only places I really enjoy going. I need to start going to places where I don't run into people I know. It brings my reputation with me. I'm looking for real life situations...not hypothetical. I'm looking for what exactly happened. Thanks --- Doug
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