Male dumpers: If you have any regrets/doubts/other feelings, do you confide in your friends?

[SmilingKatty]

The title sums it up

I would like to find out, how much should I trust/rely on the information of common friends...

And whether you guys talk about your feeling, when you are dumped?

[DN]

I think most people will tell the truth to their friends if the reasons for the dumping were honest. But all truth is filtered through personal perceptions.

[SmilingKatty]

Thank you for the answer.

I have heard, that men don´t talk about their feelings as much as women, so I am curious, if it applies to the breakup situation... if they are more prone to not being entirely truthful to their friends to maintain some kind of "manly impression"...?

[regular joe]

Of course we talk to our close friends and tell them the truth. We arent always the stereotype we are made out to be. We have feelings too and need to vent them sometimes. Look how many guys are on this board heart broken. Its not all about being macho.

 

That said, I would pay attention to DN's words. People often twist the truth. The farther something travels down the grapevine, the less truth it contains.

 

I agree with this statement. We do talk to our closest friends about our break ups.

[SmilingKatty]

So - would you admit to a friend, that you feel a little bit of regret? Maybe not something so strong like "I want her back" but more along the lines of "what if..."

I know, these are really absurd questions, but I cannot help myself (yet )

[DN]

I think a lot of men communicate differently than a lot of women. They aren't going to talk for hours about stuff like this but a lot can be said in a few words.