MisterE Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 I allready know the answer, and it is probably not as bad as I think. So my girlfriend of a year broke up last weekend. The reasons for breaking up were because she seems to be dealing with some form of depression - usually it is triggered by her job, or being broke, normal things like that. The depression lead us to break up because of the way she deals with it. Whenever she goes through these stages she pushes everybody close to her away and wants to be totally alone. I absolutely get that. Everyone needs their space. She wants to go on a "break" every time she gets upset. Now, maybe it is a character flaw of mine and I probably am a little too clingy and didn't give her enough space. But the idea of going on a "break" really bugs me. I'm a pretty firm believer that in serious relationships you're there for the good times and bad. It really hurt that she pushed me away whenever she was upset, and then when she was happy again everything was back to normal. I felt like I was a fair-weather boyfriend and it sucked. During our first week or so apart I really started to understand that's how she is, and probably will never change. I also realise that she is going to have to get over her depression if she ever wants to be together again. Now, when we broke up we said that we still love eachother (which we do) but that neither of us is in the proper head space for a serious relationship. We left the door pretty wide open for getting back together. My big mistake was initiating contact with her too soon after the fact. She said that talking to me or seeing me right now is too painful and won't help anything. I agree, and i'm committing to a month of no contact starting right now. In your guys experiences, when you have a breakup that is generally pretty "nice" does initiating contact with her and asking to get back together hurt your chances of getting back together in the future? Or does time heal all wounds. Anyways, the way I look at it is that if it was meant to be. It's meant to be. Just had to get alot of stuff off my chest. Thanks Link to comment
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