mutiny Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 Looking around here, it seems like a lot of people are in a similar boat. My boyfriend of 7 months is six years older than me and has a LOT more experience with dating and relationships than I do. He's dated a lot and been in 2 serious ltr before me, and he is my first serious relationship. But at this point, I love him so much that I just really don't care about his past at all. I don't let it bother me. Every once in awhile, he or one of his close friends might casually mention something about one of these ex-girlfriends, but its never in away thats comparing them to me or anything like that. When that does happen, it still kind of bothers me, but I just let it go. It certainly seems like he really loves me too, and if I'm wrong, then he's very good at pretending. Its difficult sometimes though, whenever I do happen to think about it. He even almost had a kid with his fist serious relationship a few years ago, but it was a still birth at 8 months. That really shook me up when I learned that, but I can't be upset at him for it. I actually appreciate his honesty. His last serious relationship, with a girl called Kim, ended a couple of years ago. Whenever he's said anything about her to me, which hasn't been much, he's told me how horrible she was and the awful things she did. But then one night.... he thought I was asleep and he was up talking to his roommate. They were playing Guitar Hero and a song came on. He said, "I like this song because it reminds me of Kim." What should I do?! This happened a couple of weeks ago, so bringing it up now would be kind of out of the blue unless something in our conversation could lead to it. I know he didn't mean anything towards me, but that really stung and I didn't want to tell him cos he thought I was asleep. How should I take this? Does this mean he isn't over her? It's been 2 years! And from what I've heard she was completely horrible, and she cheated on him too. I've heard him mention her many times to his roommate when they talk about his roommate's various girl and relationship problems when he's thought I was asleep or not paying attention, and then he's talked about me a lot too. But when I heard this I just didn't know what to think. I want to ask him more about her and his other serious girlfriend, just to understand him better if nothing else, but I know it isn't really my business and I don't want to hurt him if he isn't completely over one or both of these girls. Could our relationship really be as great as it has felt like it is if he has said that, or should I just move on? To people who have been in serious long-term relationships before and moved on to another, did you still like things that reminded you of the ex and were you still happy with your current relationship at the same time? Link to comment
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