Is no sex post-breakup easier for women?

[bro namath]

I've been broken up for 7 months, haven't hooked up w/ anyone in 5 months and it was a one time thing. How about you guys/girls?

 

Meanwhile, physical attraction to my ex and reminiscing about our sex life is my biggest challenge, especially after I see her in the flesh (like earlier this week) or pics online. She did me wrong when we broke up and I had my chance to reconcile but I turned it down, even though I wanted to sleep with her. I still do! But i wouldnt.

 

It just seems like guys obsess about sex more than women in general, therefore it's more of a challenge to us to deal in our minds without it and/or resist temptation of an ex even though we know they're bad for us.

 

Just curious to hear other perspectives, men and women...

[Ac143]

If "I" broke up with the guy I wouldn't think twice about sex with him again & wouldn't miss it. If it was the other way around - I probably would miss it. Most women correlate sex with emotions not just the physical act.

 

But I know it took me a good 3 months to not want/need sex anymore after a break up. Its hard going from getting it all the time to not getting it at all.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I was at my horniest after we broke up. It was horrible. Such a feeling of confusion and resentment.

[PandaEyes]

If "I" broke up with the guy I wouldn't think twice about sex with him again & wouldn't miss it. If it was the other way around - I probably would miss it. Most women correlate sex with emotions not just the physical act.

 

This is really true. I have been a dumper and now the dumpee and after being the one who ended it, I could never ever sleep with him again. YUCK.

 

But when it's the other way around.... It is harder. I have hardly even seen/spoken to my ex since we broke up 6 months ago and I know I wont ever sleep with him again. This some times makes me sad but the attraction fades. WHat I struggle with is this (hopefully some one can help):

 

Should I be sleeping around? Should I be having one night stands? Will that make me feel better?

I know my ex has been sleeping around and he is the LAST person I would ever expect to do that so I feel like maybe I should be to?? I know I am attractive and I get a lot of attention from men but I just..... Dont want to you know? like i sort of think "no one is going to want it if you're giving it away".....?? So confused.

 

What do guys think about this? Is sleeping around after the end of a relationship a way to get over it?

[jul-els]

I still have fond memories of sex with most of my exe's. Those were some good times. But that's all they are, memories, and that's all they'll ever be. And that suits me just fine.

[em_ski]

I have pretty much celibate and keeping to myself. It hasn't been easy, but I have had no desires for anyone and if a casual conversation with someone starts to veer into flirtation or like they are trying to hit on me I totally clam up. It sucks because, #1 it makes me start thinking of my ex and #2 I feel like I am going to be jaded forever more. I tried once to push myself to be a little more intimate with someone once - we sorta halfassed kissed, but I was not feeling it and "changed" the subject pretty quick.

 

I still feel sexually attracted to my ex, and it's been months now. Of course he is my ex, we're in NC and not having sex, so this is a wee bit problematic.