what do i do?

[flyer_87]

I am 16 years old and I have been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. We have done everything together and we were always so much in love. Just recently, I found out she had cheated on me with one of my friends. I am devistated by this and not sure what to do. This is my first real "girlfriend", and I have done everything to make it work and I'm not sure how to approach her about it because we have talked about it a while ago and she told me she had been cheated on by all her other boyfriends. She is actaully older than me, she just turned 18 this month. She always assured me she would never cheat on me because she doesn't want to hurt me and she knows how it feels to be cheated on. But I don't understand why she cheated on me and I just wanna talk to her about it but I am not sure how to approach her like I said. Please I need help, thanks. ~~

[Crazyscottie]

No matter how you slice the cake, you're going to have to confront your girlfriend eventually. One thing that might help is deciding whether or not her cheating means the end of your relationship. IMO, it definitely would, but I can't speak for you. Deciding this will prevent you from not knowing what to say when you finally do confront her! Other than that, the answer is probably to just do it. You should talk to her face-to-face, but the phone is another possibility if you can't bring yourself to do otherwise. Whatever you do, do not go through e-mail or a friend. Friends can twist her words (and yours), and with e-mail, you may never receive a reply! Good luck with this.

[Suavemantotherescue]

Well obviously, this is bothering you alot and to keep it away from her will only hurt your relationship. Her being cheated on really gives her no right to cheat on a fresh new BF such as yourself, and her saying that she'd never do makes it even worse. Basically, the most important thing in a relationship is trust and knowing that leaving someone you love behind foe awhile theywont do anything. You should tell her how you feel but don't bum-rush it, start a nice convo then just say "Theres something I want to talk about" or something. After that, just tell her how you felt when she cheated on you and tell her where the relationship will go. Of course, give her another chance if you really want to keep going but don't ask her all the time if she cheated. Just continue like it never happened. If she does it again, you might want to consider leaving her.

[Pysal131]

How did you find out she cheated on you? Did you come out in the open and tell you or did you find out from someone else? Maybe you explained that and i missed it, i dunno. Anyway, without being hasty, if she didnt come to you and tell you, I'd say get out of the relationship. If she was as in love as you, she wouldnt have cheated on you, and she would have had enough respect for you to at least tell you if she did. Be judgemental, be firm on your position, and dont take her back without making sure that you arent putting yourself up for another shot to the balls. I've been cheated on, and I know how much it hurts, and how deeply that penetrates. And how it really won't ever go away.