CocoButter Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I am kind of annoyed. MY boyfriend of 3 months did not invite me to a birthday party he is going to...guys and girls will be there.... Is this normal??? I hate these things...my last boyfriend invited me to eveyrthing he did..basically i was ALWAYS welcome...this guy does not always include me....yes ive been to a few activities that r group things...however that was like the first month...now he seems to want to keep me separate from his time w his friends....I feel kind of upset about it.... I did not say anything bc I dont want to be a nag...instead I want tables to turn.... Link to comment
CocoButter Posted September 12, 2009 Author Share Posted September 12, 2009 someone please give me ur opinion?? Link to comment
hers Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 you don't want to say anythign yet you want him to know what you want. he's not a mind reader! why not ask if you can go? boyfriends and girlfriends don't need to go everywhere together. Link to comment
deleted-account Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 He probably feels like he can't be himself when he's with his friends and you're there. I've felt that way before.... instead of having fun himself he probably worries about you having an ok time. Just talk to him about it and let him know you'd like to go to more things with him. Link to comment
Sparkley Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 Yeah Im in the same boat as you and got angry at mine over a party invite but I got accussed of being too clingy. Link to comment
CocoButter Posted September 12, 2009 Author Share Posted September 12, 2009 Yea...I suspect he will think he has to worry about me etc....and ive had that too...where I like to keep him separate when I hang out w my friends....but not if I went to big party....I would think he would want me there to have fun w him! But I guess he would have to be around me whole time bc i dont know anyone and maybe he wants to be w his friends having fun........ I DEF knew not to make a stink about it...I played it cool...even though I was super super pissed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
Sparkley Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 Talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. See how he reacts to that and make him understand how upset you were. Bet he did not think you would be though and sure he did not mean to hurt you. Link to comment
CocoButter Posted September 12, 2009 Author Share Posted September 12, 2009 no...we guys it doesnt work to tell them. they just get turned off and think ur needy. what works is monkey see monkey do. Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 I don't really find that odd. I had bfs who went to birthday parties of friends and I was not invited. They went alone. Same with me. I don't find it that strange. I guess if the relationship is very serious or both people know the birthday guy or gal then the SO would be expected to be invited. Other than that...I don't see it as being weird. Link to comment
Kumatora Posted September 13, 2009 Share Posted September 13, 2009 I am kind of annoyed. MY boyfriend of 3 months did not invite me to a birthday party he is going to...guys and girls will be there.... If guys and girls (I'm guessing people bringing dates) were coming to the party and you weren't invited, I'd consider it very rude. Least the way I was raised, it's considered proper to allow guests to bring dates to a party you threw. If it's just a guys night then that's a different story. Link to comment
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