decipher my online conversation, telll it to me bluntly

[jjnner]

Hi, Please help

 

I must be a really dumb girl, but I just don't get what is going on in my dating world.

I was just talking to a guy I have been sort of dating with from work. We just talked on msn, and I included a bit of the script from our conversation for you to decipher. I must be sooooo dumb, but

WHAT IS THIS GUY SAYING TO ME???? Maybe I just don't wanna hear it from myself? I need it blunt, should I forget about him?

We really did get along perfect.

 

 

BOY says:

u still hav my video right? i cant remember?

 

Girl says:

yup,

 

Girlsays:

I'll bring it to work monday?

 

Girlsays:

or we can just hang out sometime soon?

 

BOY says:

ya wuteva, no hurry

 

Girlsays:

I'd ask if your busy today... but I think I know the answer? you are?

 

BOY says:

i never go out on sundays

 

BOY says:

we can hang this week sometime tho

 

Girl says:

why don't you go out sunday?

 

BOYsays:

i gotta b home for dinner, usually i just like to take it easy on sundays n relax, i kinda designate sunday as MY DAY

 

Girl says:

uh huh

 

Girl says:

havnt seen u in a week

 

BOY says:

i seen u yesterday at work silly

 

Girl says:

u,know thats not what I mean

 

BOY says:

well wut do u want me to say lol

 

Girl says:

We used to hang out more than this, what did I do?

 

BOYsays:

nothin i just feel a little weird

 

Girl says:

why weird?

 

 

HYDRO says:

i like u n ur nice n all but i dont wanna hav a gf, know wut i mean

 

Girlsays:

u dont even wanna hang

 

Girlsays:

just hang around guy friends?

 

BOY says:

pretty much...if i hang with u im gonna wanna ***blanked out***, i cant hav that goin on right now lol

 

Girl says:

Not that I just want us **blanked out ****, but just curious why dont u want that goin on right now?

Did you just wanna *****blank*** cuz I was there, thats all?

 

BOY says:

huh?

 

Girlsays:

why did you seem interested? at one point?

 

BOYsays:

i let my urges take over my brain

 

Girl says:

I thought we were havin a good time?

 

BOY says:

i wanna ** blank** u constantly but i know it isnt the best coarse of action

BOY says:

well im gonna go eat so i guess well talk later k, bye

 

Girl says:

Huh?

[kate111]

He doesn't sound too keen to me.

 

He is pulling away from you and trying to tell you in a nice way that he doesn't want to go out with you.

 

You may be able to remedy the situation though.

 

It is your turn to pull away from him. Don't ask what he thinks of you, don't ask him to hang out, in fact don't contact him but let him contact you, and hang out with other friends to keep you occupied.

 

When you do have contact chat and act happy and independent. Act like you really like him but that you don't NEED him.

 

Keep a bit of mystery. Keep him guessing.

 

If he misses you and wants to hang out then that s good and you can setting some ground rules for what you expect from him.

 

If he doesn't then he doesn't really like you anyway and you are better off forgetting him altogether.

 

You can't make someone like you by pushing yourself on them. In fact this only reeks of desperation and will turn anybody off.

 

You would be wise to read some of the advice in "getting back together".

 

Good luck

[sweetharmony]

just my opinion, but it sounds like he was using you for sex- just my opnion- he bascially said that's all it was- that he wants to &*(&*( you all the time and when you asked him if at one time he was interested in more, he replies like this- i broke it down, to make it easier.

 

Girlsays:

just hang around guy friends?

 

BOY says:

pretty much...if i hang with u im gonna wanna ***blanked out***, i cant hav that goin on right now lol

 

Girl says:

Not that I just want us **blanked out ****, but just curious why dont u want that goin on right now?

Did you just wanna *****blank*** cuz I was there, thats all?

 

BOY says:

huh?

Girlsays:

why did you seem interested? at one point?

 

BOYsays:

i let my urges take over my brain

 

meaning i let my horniness take over my feelings of not wanting a girlfriend.

 

Girl says:

I thought we were havin a good time?

 

BOY says:

i wanna ** blank** u constantly but i know it isnt the best coarse of action-

 

meaning he really likes to have sex with you, but doesn't see you as girlfriend.

 

sorry, just trying to be blunt like you said. words have many meanings and sometime people don't say what they mean or mean what they say, but this seems like it is spelled out. he sounds like a jerk and i would just forget about him. sounds like he was never really interested, or pretending now not be. good luck.

[jjnner]

thank you soo much for your help!!!!!!!!!