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Three weeks ago I met the greatest guy, and we are just crazy about each other. He lives 10 hours away and has a steady permanent good paying job in a small town. I have a part-time job, and it is not that permanent, so in order to over come our long distance relationship we have decided that I would move away and live with him. Everything sounds great……BUT my family. They are protesting this move and are showing they're displeasure quite readily. They told me that since they all are saying it's a bad idea.. It must be. They think I am "rushing" this relationship and have told me that I should wait at least 6 months before I move. I have chosen to move next month. This is creating problems and conflicts between my family. The town I will be moving to, my Sister and her family lives there, so I wont be totally isolated. I think all I have to do is listen to them, not have them run my life. They are insisting that I listen to them and they know best!! This conflict is driving me crazy and is getting me real upset and is interfering with my relationship. What do I do????

A love triangle.. Three months ago I broke up with my ex boyfriend of four years. It was not mutual even though my ex had broken up with me in the past. I broke up with him for many reasons but the most important reason being that I fell out of love with him. During this time of me being single, I met I new guy and was totally smitten with him. But he made sure he kept his distance because he was moving to another province (18 Hours away). I was pretty heart broken he was so distant to me even though our relationship could have been really great. Now my ex had troubles with his roommates and so he now lives with me. He tries every day, very hard to "get me back" by being the sweetest guy. Yeah he might have changed, but my heart is somewhere else and it hurts him when I tell him that. I do not find it weird that my ex now lives with me but I am sure If I told that to any guy, they would be too weirded out. Now to make matters more of a love triangle, the guy I became smitten with's best friend calls me up just to "talk" which he has never had before. I was told to stay clear of this guy because all he wanted was sex. So to break it down. I like the guy who moved away. He likes me but none too serious. He best friend like me. His best friend also has another g/f My ex like me and want to get back together. I do not have any feelings for my ex that way. It seems like nobody likes the other person the same, even thought there is so much love offered. Every day that goes by, I wonder why does it have to be so complex. All these feeling/Games/disses/are bring me totally down. Its all making me depressed, I thought love was suposed to be GREAT?????

Just when things were going so good, everything wrong has to happen happened. I am seeing a guy who lives in the same city as my ex. I am still friends with my ex, even though the guy I am seeing has a big problem with it. A couple weeks ago, the guy im seeing caught me driving down the road with my ex, he saw us in his rear view mirror. He didn't talk to me for a week. Everything was going good between us until they happened to run into each other driving (again!!!). My ex took the turn off that goes to my house and he saw him. (My ex was infact coming to my house, but just to talk and hang out …totally harmless. Later that day the guy im seeing was talking to me on msn messenger, and he got mad that I was still hanging out with my ex. He then disappeared wont call me back, wont answer me emails. I do see this guy at work… and so Saturday im gonna have to confront him. I guess this guy is very jealous or something but it makes me mad that he disses me if I wanna be friends with my ex. Is this a problem? I sure am confused about his actions.

Oh boy, long story why I'm not with my ex. To sum it up, we just didn't respect each other, he lived with roommates and I haven't even been over to his house in over a year. His roommate didn't like me, and it just so happened to also be his best friend. Sadly there are lots of other reasons too, too numerous to list. When its over its over I guess. I feel like I don't have a choice right now, I'm just going where my heart leads me.

I just got out of a four year relationship. I didn't cry at the end or feel the least bit upset. But I am in totall distraught emotional turmoil over a guy I hung around and hooked up with for only a month, . I'm totally confused about my feelings. He basically told me that he didn't want a serious relationship, but I am totally infatuated with him. I want to be with him, he does not want to be with me. He plays hard to get, or so that's how I take it. I haven't talked to him for about two weeks and tonight he msn'd me we talked a bit and things got intimate. That's leading me on, but cruelly, I let myself be swept away by him. I feel bad, cause I still talk to my ex, he still thinks he still has a chance with me, he didn't take our break up well. I told him I just want to be friends though, I make things very clear to him. He still chooses to hang around me. Should I not talk to my ex anymore? He is always making passes at me, I just want to be his friend. Why does this new guy infatuate me so much? My ex would give the world to me, while this new guy isn't really interested. My life would be perfect if I let my x back in my life, he's "changed" and everything "seems" perfect. I could take that option which seems like it has no problems, but I cant ignore how much I like this other guy and that would not be fair to my x. Why cant I just be happy with my x? I feel selfish, confused? Don't really know what to think about things? Rejection is so hard to deal with. Being the rejecter or rejected.

thank you soo much for your help!!!!!!!!!

Hi, Please help I must be a really dumb girl, but I just don't get what is going on in my dating world. I was just talking to a guy I have been sort of dating with from work. We just talked on msn, and I included a bit of the script from our conversation for you to decipher. I must be sooooo dumb, but WHAT IS THIS GUY SAYING TO ME???? Maybe I just don't wanna hear it from myself? I need it blunt, should I forget about him? We really did get along perfect. BOY says: u still hav my video right? i cant remember? Girl says: yup, Girlsays: I'll bring it to work monday? Girlsays: or we can just hang out sometime soon? BOY says: ya wuteva, no hurry Girlsays: I'd ask if your busy today... but I think I know the answer? you are? BOY says: i never go out on sundays BOY says: we can hang this week sometime tho Girl says: why don't you go out sunday? BOYsays: i gotta b home for dinner, usually i just like to take it easy on sundays n relax, i kinda designate sunday as MY DAY Girl says: uh huh Girl says: havnt seen u in a week BOY says: i seen u yesterday at work silly Girl says: u,know thats not what I mean BOY says: well wut do u want me to say lol Girl says: We used to hang out more than this, what did I do? BOYsays: nothin i just feel a little weird Girl says: why weird? HYDRO says: i like u n ur nice n all but i dont wanna hav a gf, know wut i mean Girlsays: u dont even wanna hang Girlsays: just hang around guy friends? BOY says: pretty much...if i hang with u im gonna wanna ***blanked out***, i cant hav that goin on right now lol Girl says: Not that I just want us **blanked out ****, but just curious why dont u want that goin on right now? Did you just wanna *****blank*** cuz I was there, thats all? BOY says: huh? Girlsays: why did you seem interested? at one point? BOYsays: i let my urges take over my brain Girl says: I thought we were havin a good time? BOY says: i wanna ** blank** u constantly but i know it isnt the best coarse of action BOY says: well im gonna go eat so i guess well talk later k, bye Girl says: Huh?

I was in a relationship with my X for 4 years. The first two years we were very much in love, we even lived together. When I moved out, the next two years of our relationship turned sour. I was never unfaithful. Last month we broke up and I started dating a co-worker. Me and him are PERFECT together, but he tells me weird things that I need your help to decode Things he said over an online chat: "I am too fresh out of last relationship and he cannot be my b/f because of that" And " He is not at that point in his life that he wants a g/f" Yet he has had many serious relationships, the last was in the summer. I have strong feelings for him cause he is everything I like in a guy, and the problem is we've "messed" around, and the connection is totally there. He is 23, I'm 21. I think about him constantly but he gives me mixed messages. I don't want him to think I like him just for a "rebound" thing, cause I really see him as a serious relationship potential. HELP!!!