pumpkinmoon Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I'm sure everybody at some stage plays the hypothetical question game where you ask your BF or GF what they would do in certain situations. Well my BF thought of one earlier and asked me what I would do if he got sent to prison for 15-20 years. My answer was that I would visit him and basically wait for him until he got out. He told me I would be an idiot to do that and said that he wouldn't allow me to and that he would stop my visits to force me to move on. I told him that I wouldn't want to move on and would want to visit him, he said that I could visit him if I took me new husband with me. He told me that he would be a different person if he was even sent away and that he would class his life as being over and would basically turn into a monster. He also said that forcing me to move on by refusing to see me would be the kindest thing he could do. It kinda upset me a little because I would want to wait for him I think if that ever happened. Silly thread I know but just thought I would write it out. Not sure if him not wanting me to wait for him is a good or bad thing. Anybody want to share their hypothetical questions? Link to comment
WickedSunrise Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I've never done the hypothetical question thing, but I agree with him. If my boyfriend went to prison for 15-20 years, he did something bad enough that I shouldn't want to see him either. I'd have to move on. Link to comment
diamond78 Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I find your response odd because just a couple days ago you were thinking about ending your relationship with your b/f. Believe me, you would not wait 15-20 years for this guy while he was in jail...as you shouldn't. Link to comment
metwo Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 he's right.. its an immature way of thinking... seriously.. no offense by that Link to comment
nina2009 Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I completely understand your BF way of thinking. He imagined himself being so in the wrong when he ends up as a criminal in a prison. He would feel so bad about himself that he would need to do something good in order to respect himself back. So by letting you go he gains self-respect. However I do not understand what brought this way of thinking... Link to comment
Divine_Malice Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Has he done something bad? Hypothetically questions usually aren't so detailed. Like what if I died or something more innocent. Jail? What the heck is that, where does that come from? Plus if he did something so horrible to stay in a prison that long would you want to stay with him? 15 to 20 years is a long time, wasting a lot of your life. Link to comment
arcadefire Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 That's odd that he raised that hypothetical question to you, makes me feel like he might get sent to prison! But he's right. Move on. Don't waste 15-20 years of your life pining for a man you cannot hold. Link to comment
pumpkinmoon Posted August 17, 2009 Author Share Posted August 17, 2009 lol no he isn't going to prison. We always ask hypothetical questions. Just thought I would make a post about it. Diamond, I see what you are saying by the posts being conflcted. This was brought up whilst we were getting along, just thought I would write it out. Link to comment
quirky Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 you wouldn't be able to wait 15 - 20 years, trust me. If he went to prison means he broke the law, means he didn't respect society, didn't treasure himself, you and your love enough to put it at risk. Your response was probably based on a romantic idea, in reality I'm pretty sure you'd move on.. Link to comment
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