Any suggestions on getting my ex back?

[megadvt0704]

I dated a wonderful man for 8 months. We started dating the day we met, but we couldn't help it. After a few months, he told me that he wanted to be single but liked being with me, and he hated hurting me. He said he was just confused. But we continued dating, and we got along so well when we were together. By February, it all started to fall apart. The last time I saw him in person was when he thought I might be pregnant. I knew I wasn't, but he was worried. He's 26, and I'm 22. He broke up with me because "he just wanted to take a step back and really think of what he wanted"..

 

So I left him alone for a month or so, and now I just send him little things here and here. On Saturday, he called me drunk (which he hardly does, but was out with his friends who came home for Easter), and was talking to me. I had not talked to him since we broke up. He asked me if I was dating anyone, and I said no. And I asked him, and he said he's been on a few dates. And I tried not to get upset but I just said, "I want you to be happy, but it's only been a month you wanted to be single" My best friend who grew up with him called him and talked to him afterwards. They were both drunk,and he poured his heart out to her.

 

He said, "She is the perfect wife" four or five times, but that he is not ready for that. When she asked him if he would ever get back with me, she said there was a long pause,and then he said, "i know you're her best friend, but i don't think so..I'm just so scared"....WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

 

Never in a million years did I think someone that I loved would love me back but be scared because I was wife material. I would really like him back, but I know he's scared. He needs time, and I respect that. And I don't want to be back with him THIS SECOND, but do want another chance with him. I am a very independent person, but I WANT him. I want another chance with someone that I fell in love with so fast. Things happen for a reason, and I believe I am supposed to be with him.

 

Any advice anyone has would be greatly appreciated. I am so confused right now, and I need help.

[kalona]

hey.

this is a terrible situation for u to be in,considering that u know he has very strong feelings for u.im in the same position but my ex wouldnt call me and say the things ur ex has. you are right to not be in contact and it seems that in doing so you are keeping him interested.i am of the same opinion that u can mak things happen and u have to fight for things. If after only 1 month he is thinkin he wants u and is so upset i think he will be back. continue the no contact...continue getting urself strong again and somewhat happy.....give it another month and see what he does...i feel this will work out for u...maybe i shouldnt say that but he seems to really care.

[megadvt0704]

Thanks for your response. It has been hard, but if we are truly meant to be, we will be. It's just hard because I care about him so much. I miss him, and it's hard not being in contact with him. Do any guys have any suggestions? Why would a man say all that stuff? it's so confusing!

[kalona]

I think it would be great to get a guy's opinion on this ......i feel its good to see whether they think its drunken talk or wat he truly means.