sarahN Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 I'm an adult and feel like I'd rather just use the real words. Anyway, this is a serious question and I don't want to get booted, so here it goes... using almost the real words I was with a guy last night and he was very interested in me. We were in the car and we started making out. It turned into something very passionate, so I have no doubt that we clicked and he likes me (lots of eye contact, hair stroking, intimate stuff). With that said, in his downtown region, he basically seemed to not be responding, at least not in the way I am used to. Even after trying to stimulate that region, we was simply not getting h*rd, or at least not h*rd h*rd. Here is my question. Do some guys simply not inflate to their full potential, and is that just normal for them??? I don't even know how that would work if it was just kinda h*rd. In fact, I don't think that would work at all. What do you think the problem is? Nerves? Also, he is younger than me so maybe he was nervous about that? This guy is very sweet and comforting and he would be the perfect cute guy to date for awhile, but I don't know what to do about this. I'm sooo confused right now. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Is he sexually inexperienced? He may just be very nervous, I wouldnt worry yet, after a few more times if he can't I'd be a lil worried and talk to him about it. But if you talk to him after it happens once he'll probably just be even more embarassd andnervous. Link to comment
TBE_1989 Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Nerves, alcohol, medical problem...usually it's NOTHING to do with the girl. Link to comment
sarahN Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 well I would Never bring it up to him, no. at least not for awhile. and he doesn't drink, he's very healthy, so i guess it could be nerves. Link to comment
sarahN Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 also, he's very inexperienced. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 also, he's very inexperienced. Probably very scared. Just be patient and understanding and reassure him as much as posible. Link to comment
Reeling Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Men don't have control over their penises. Sometimes it gets hard for reasons completely unrelated to sexual arousal, sometimes while being aroused it won't get hard, or not fully hard like it should. And then various drugs / alcohols will actually inhibit a man's ability to have an erection. If you're making sexual moves and he's reciprocating, he's clearly physically interested. Link to comment
Lecturer Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Reasons I know of to not get fully erect: 1. Nerves/stress/guilt/discomfort 2. Alcohol/Drugs 3. Recent orgasm/ejaculation 4. Erectile dysfunction 5. Unusually large penis (tend to not get fully hard, due to limited blood supply and circulation) Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 sometimes it just won't work Link to comment
UptownGuy Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Just nerves. He probably thinks that with you being the older one, he won't be able to live up to your expectations. Even if a guy is not particularly attracted to a girl, most likely he will get hard if she touches him or puts his penis in her mouth. So, it is probably not that he is not attracted to you. I think in this case he is intimidated by you. Link to comment
OrangeMoon Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Ehm have you been together for a while?...like been dating a while. Because to me it feels you might not have known him too well yet....and in that case the excitement of it all might be a bit overwhelming for him... Link to comment
DN Posted August 12, 2009 Share Posted August 12, 2009 Moderator Note: It's OK to use the word hard - or you could use erection. Link to comment
sarahN Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 good to know i can use the word hard. lol. hopefully this question isn't a too common one in my life. like i said, he is young, and i barely know him, and he me, we just have that chemistry connection right now. so i'm sure it could be nerves, but yet i'm worried it's not. also, i've never even heard of erectile dysfunction happening before the age of 30. Link to comment
sarahN Posted August 12, 2009 Author Share Posted August 12, 2009 grrrr. i just talked to him and i was being cute... and asked, "were you nervous?". and he said, "no, not at all". now i'm freaked out. lol. only me. Link to comment
Shudder Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 grrrr. i just talked to him and i was being cute... and asked, "were you nervous?". and he said, "no, not at all". now i'm freaked out. lol. only me. how old are you may i ask? Link to comment
Difficult Posted August 13, 2009 Share Posted August 13, 2009 No offense but I'm 25 and have never had a problem getting hard unless I wasnt into the girl. If I was just messing around for the sake of getting some and I wasnt into her I would do a soft hardy where I was hard but not all the way but still hard. Link to comment
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