does likeing gay porn make a guy bay or bi???-- gay/bi only

[sciencegirl]

the guy im dating is very effiminate. one would assume he is gay when they meet him. hes a pretty boy and the gay men love him! anyhow, i have recently learned that he enjoys watching gay porn. i know in the past he has fooled around with a guy, but says he didnt enjoy it. maybe just wrong person? anyhow, he also enjoys straight porn, and seems to enjoy sex. he has never been unable to maintain an erection, comes every time we have sex (not too fast, and not too slowly), and gives great head (i come every time!). now, i really doubt he is strictly "gay." if anything, id guess he was bi. but, maybe not? i mean, in nearly every porn there is, women get it on. and, though i am not bi or lesbian, it does make me arroused. same difference, right? but, still...given that there is such a stigma against gay sex, maybe its not quite the same...then again, maybe given the fact that he is effeminate, has had to get comfortable with this, has made him more comfortable with his sexuality, and makes him feel okay with enjoying the fact that in gay sex its total raw sex...no pretenses, no fake love...hard, heavy, and hot. okay...now its your turn. i need some input.

[Happy_Go_Lucky_Heb]

Hey sciencegirl.

 

By the sounds of it he's bi, he likes doing sexual activities with all sexes not just one.

 

Heb

[The Morrigan]

You don't say how old he is - he could be bi, or he could be simply open minded and curious enough to have experimented. If he's sexually aroused by you and straight porn and women in general though, he's definitely not just gay. Is he content in his relationship with you sexually? Bisexual people can be as monogamous as straight or gay as long as they're involved with their partner and wish to be - so unless it really bothers you, I wouldn't worry about it too much unless he seems to want to stray and experiment with guys (or other girls!). Whether he's bi or not for certain he'll only find out if he's strongly sexually attracted to another guy - not just porn. Have you guys talked about it much? More girls than guys seem to go through a "bicurious" phase, but it's far from unheard of for guys to speculate, though not many I know would watch gay porn - if he finds it a real turn on, he may well be bi, but I'd say it's only a real issue if it interferes with the relationship you guys have together and your comfort level about it.