What if you don't always.....

[yeawutever]

think of your partner in that moment you're pleasuring yourself. And to make it worst your partner (well long distance in my case) calls you and one of the question asked is ''So you think of me when you're masturbating''? Then off course you have to lie and say ''Oh yes off course I do, all the time''. The real answer is really ''No not always, sometimes I think about random guys, or other things nothing to do with our relationship in my fantasies''.

 

Ok must you feel guilty for that?? Can't say it else they think you don't care about the relationship that much or you wanna explore else where which is not true. I just can't help it......

[Mia_of_Doom]

Everyone fantasizes, it's normal. We don't stop being attracted to random hotties when we're in relationships and fantasizing about them while masturbating is healthy and safe, not to mention WAY better than cheating. Think of it as watching porn in your mind.

[yeawutever]

Yes I know. It's just that you have to lie to your partners to not to hurt their feelings. I kinda have an idea how he would get if I ever told him my real fantasies so I best leave it like that and never share it.

[furious]

Why does he have to ask you if you're thinking about him while masturbating? That just seems a little awkward. And unless he's unhealthily obsessed with you, I can guarantee that he has fantasized freely when masturbating.

[yeawutever]

And unless he's unhealthily obsessed with you, I can guarantee that he has fantasized freely when masturbating.

He stated no that he only thinks of me. I wouldn't mind if he fantasize of other girls but not vice-versa.

 

I did once try to see what his point of view was on that, when I start a convo. of couples that fantasize about other people, he was something like ''No, you only think of the person you love, that's probably cos they thinking of exploring elsewhere'' so then I just move on to another topic and kept my fantasies a secret till now.

 

Then I dunno if me having been a virgin at the time I met him has anything to do with this. I guess that must be why it might be harder for him if I were to tell him my real fantasies.

[top bloke]

You did the right thing. A white lie wont kill and it is something thats no ones business. Dont feel guilty..you are releasing frustration..it is healthy provided you are faithful

[Sparkly Eyes]

You did the right thing. A white lie wont kill and it is something thats no ones business. Dont feel guilty..you are releasing frustration..it is healthy provided you are faithful

 

I agree, he doesn't have to know!

[Rose21]

This post helps me alot.

 

Please check out mine in Relationships under "Why do I feel guilty" !

[mr.mac]

Everyone fantasizes, it's normal. We don't stop being attracted to random hotties when we're in relationships and fantasizing about them while masturbating is healthy and safe, not to mention WAY better than cheating. Think of it as watching porn in your mind.

 

Great answer!

[konstantine]

I'm pretty sure all those guys who masturbate to porn aren't thinking about their girlfriends at the time, so why do you have to?

 

I actually do think of my boyfriend almost all the time, but that's me. I would rather never know what he thinks about to be honest. That's probably how your boyfriend feels, in which case it's better just to tell him what he wants to hear.

[Sparkley]

Oh I always thought of my husband whilst married or else...some faceless hunk. So never felt guilty that way.

I'm sure you bf would not worry if you did not think of him all the time.