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Hi,

 

I see a young lady I like on the way to work - we've been out a couple of times and she knows I like her. I'd like to get to know her better and spend more time with her but...

 

Although she hasn't been too obvious about her feelings, she's contacted me and tried to get in touch when we've 'just missed' each other etc. When I pushed the matter just a little bit, she said she just wanted to be friends - which is fine, but then next time I saw her, she was really quite flirty, making the initial contact to say 'Hi', a bit touchy-feely (a first for her) and friendly and relaxed - perhaps the most she's been with me since I met her. What's going on here then?

 

Maybe the 'friends' bit has relaxed the situation on both accounts and removed the dating tension and the attraction guessing games.

 

I'm happy to be friends if that's all she wants - don't want to lose her as a friend, but her behaviour just seems a bit too flirty considering what she's said. To be honest, it made me feel more comfortable with her as well and allow the real me to show a bit more...

 

What d'you reckon???

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Since she already know you want to be closer, shes fliting a bit more. I think thats a good thing, unless your hearts really, really in it and you feel you're going to be hurt. She feels good flirting with you and you feel good letting her flirt with you, everything sounds good to me. Have fun with it, keep it light, she already knows how you feel on need to tell her again for a while, just have fun with it.

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She's using body language to show that she has an interest. 'touchy-feely' and brushing up against you are signals of interest. Read up on body language and show her the signals to further your intentions with her.

 

She could also be simply teasing you by flirting with you but not letting it go further. Decide if she's worth flirting with. Friends don't need to flirt. Set limits to what is frienship and open flirtation 'with intention".

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