dhjjessel Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 So my ex and I have all the same friends. She broke up with me and I have been distraught for 3 months - keep breaking NC and making things worse and essentially never attempted to protect myself, just continued to be honest about the way i feel, and I guess that she did to - in the sense that she doesnt want to be with me (now) and i want to be with her (now) I keep having to turn down invitations for parties when she is going, which is fair being that it is I that insist on having NC. However, am I not just coming off weak if I cant even face her? Should I not try and bottle it up and just be myself and try and get along? then, if she tries to call etc after the party/parties i can just ignore the phone calls messages etc.... I just dont want to appear weak and pathetic... still, i keep breaking NC and it has only been 10 days since i last kissed her (even though she has been involved with someone else casually for the last 3 months since we broke up) WHAT SHALL I DO? Link to comment
peredita Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 You cant keep avoiding her forever. For you to have a happy life like what you deserve you need to be able to comfortably interact with your friends. I know that kind of thing will hurt to see her, but if she can hang out with your friends than so can you. Its going to be hard but you will have to get used to seeing her around. To keep your dignity and pride you must be able to interact with your friends without being sad about your ex. Go to those parties and ignore her. You need to live too. Link to comment
tin_tin Posted March 16, 2009 Share Posted March 16, 2009 Mate. I would just go to these partys. You dont have to go to every single one you get invited to though. I know it will be hard seeing her and what not. But try and keep your emotions well hidden. Easier said than done, i know. Start chatting to different people, make out your having a good time. If your ex sees this, then she wont think your weak. Sure it might even perk up her interest more in you. Especially if you chat to girls. Even though i know its your ex that you want. If you happen to bump into her at these partys, just try to act cool calm and collected. Link to comment
dhjjessel Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 i feel like i would be going to the party and acting cool in the hope that it will persuade her to like me again, and get her back, rather than just for the sake of seeing my friends. Link to comment
dhjjessel Posted March 16, 2009 Author Share Posted March 16, 2009 I find that when i get calls from people that remind me of here (ie I want to ask them about her), i dont want to talk to them or see them either because it causes me pain and frustration Link to comment
ratfreak Posted March 17, 2009 Share Posted March 17, 2009 I'd stay away from the parties for a little bit. At least until you are sure you can be k with seeing her. When you do go and can't deal with her being around, just leave and say you have ANOTHER party to go to. I'm sure she doesn't think you're weak. Keeping NC shows you are strong and you are! Link to comment
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